Is there such a thing as alone time anymore?
Hello all, I'm new here and looking for advice.
I am with an amazing man and we are getting married next year. We've been together for over 2 years and he has a 5 year old daughter. She is a wonderful little girl, but lately I just feel out of place. My fiance works 12 hour days and picks up a lot of over time. He has 50/50 custody with his ex, but on days she works and he's off we have her. I've been feeling frustrated more than usual with the fact that we can't seem to find any alone time together. I understand that he wants to get her any chance he can get, I really do. But at the same time it would be nice if we would be able to have a night to ourselves and go on a date. He works most of the weekends so the occasional Saturday he has off I'd like us to be able to do something. We usually end up picking up his daughter in the morning (if it's not our week) and she doesn't get picked up until after 8pm. By that time we don't have time to do anything because he most likely has work early the next morning. Even if it's not to go out on a date, but to simply have a conversation with him. From the moment we get home or she wakes up, until it's her bedtime or she goes to her mom's she wants him to play with her. Most of the time he does, but sometimes he will tell her he's busy doing something but she will keep asking (as kids do) and he always gives in. I feel like there could be some sort of balance and we just haven't reached it. I love this little girl, but is it selfish of me to want some time with my fiance? I can't even have a conversation with him without being interrupted all the time.