For everyone who has both bios and skids around the same age - who finds skids more annoying when it comes to they way they play and interact in your home?

LOL! I'm sure everyone does at times...I'll try to explain....

My bios are home all day with me in the summer. They amuse themselves, are quiet and do not cause a huge mess. They can play and then put it back. They can eat and there won't be a mess. And I can throw them in the car and take them wherever and they don't cause a huge ordeal or complain. I'm not saying they are perfect by any means. I am the first to call my kids out and discipline when necessary and they don't get away with much at all. Even if it is just them at night they will sit and watch a movie with us, have a conversation and when it's bed they go to bed and that's the end of it.

On the opposite side you have skids. They are the same age as bios for the most part. As soon as they walk into the house they are loud, yelling, grabbing and taking whatever they want and creating havoc. They have to be told the same thing over and over. At meal times it's a huge mess, toys everywhere etc. SO sees this and does discipline but it doesn't seem to have the same effect. It's like it goes in one ear and out the other and 5 minutes later it's the same thing. Taking them anywhere is so exhausting.

Here is an amazing example of just how different - younger skids (6 and 7) will still draw on things. Like walls etc. I have had to take all drawing items away and hide them just to stop it. SO although he disciplines will say to me that kids will do that. But my argument is that yes, when they are much younger.

Older skids will kick doors if someone won't open it and think nothing of breaking something. Like screens in the Windows. We can't keep screens because they constantly rip them in one way or another. It isn't intentional but it's because they do whatever they want. And again SO disciplines but it doesn't make a difference.

My thoughts go all over the place as to why....

1. Other people's kids may annoy me more - maybe that's why.
2. They have very little respect for our household due to BMs actions.
3. Adding more kids may compound the effect (but we have had just them (my bios not here) and it's the same.

I am at a loss. When I discipline my bios they tend to not do it again. Or maybe they actually listen I don't know. I do know when SO disciplines skids they have this blank stare that I can only imagine is like is this over yet so we can do it again.

What is your thoughts?