Well finding this site has changed my life! Today I have been able to share views with many others and it really helps to talk .. I didn't agree with all of the comments but that's great -- mix of opinions is always good and also it made me re-evaluate. I am not anyone's doormat. I will stand up for my self as I hate that shrinking-violet feeling that my husbands family create..... I will be stronger!!

It's also good to know I am not a jealous psycho-bitch!! I am entitled to feel the way I do and I do not need to be so compliant when my gut tells me the situation is wrong.

Mind you -- is it wrong to hate your step-kids?! I know they are part of the package when marrying a divorcee but honestly ... they are ADULTS and at age 29 I was working overseas, fighting to keep my house, not a burden on my parents.... these Step-Adults still have their hands firmly wedged in daddy's wallet....for anything from dental care to gasoline to 'just $50 to the end of the month" ... and daddy still provides! I do blame him and the BM for this though ----- I was bought up differently --- to pay own way, never to borrow -- to have some pride and work hard..... I am so glad I did not have to deal with them at a younger age - I don't think I would have done it..