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Submitted by StepX2 on Fri, 09/21/2012 - 11:26am

Dear Abby alternates with other advice columnists in our local newspaper. Today it was Carolyn Hax who I believe writes for the Washington Post. I think some of you on here might be interested in today's column, both letters. The first is step related but the second one kind of goes hand in hand with the first letter.

http://seattletimes.com/html/living/2019140067_hax21.html

What are your thoughts on this?
My thoughts? We personally are in control of how we handle the bumps (and sometime mountains)in the road that come along in life.

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Submitted by hereiam on Fri, 09/21/2012 - 2:56pm

I think it's weird of a couple to expect (and try to force) someone else to celebrate their anniversary. Really, get over yourselves!

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Submitted by StepX2 on Fri, 09/21/2012 - 4:09pm

The daughter not signing the card wasn't the big issue with me. The amount of time everyone has been holding onto anger over the situation is what astounds me.
We hear about bitter BMs on this board who can't get over tha fact that their exH has moved on in his life and granted, it may be tough on the BM if her ex was cheating before the break up, but to me, the problem should be with her ex, he is the one who had a committment to her, not the girlfriend/new wife. It sounds like the person who wrote the letter has probably heard countless times from mom about the cheating during the marriage.
As one commenter stated, it is hard watching either of your parents go through a rough time but come on now...25 years later and they're still bitter "because of what it has done to mom?" Mom had a choice to how she would handle her life post-break-up and as tough as it was, she was still an example to her kids. Who knows, maybe the kids only got their mom's side of the story and because the kids were too bitter and/or alienated from dad due to mom's vindictiveness, they have never heard dad's side.
Just saying, 25 years is a heck of a long time to hold the bitterness.