So, the debate took a slight turn in the right direction on Saturday night.....

MIL dropped SD7 off at mine for her sleepover and expressed an unhappiness to how the bedrooms were going to work.

Now, the other day, I said how the bedroom saga with OH went better than expected, and OH continues to exceed any expectation I had with him on this issue, but I also said that BM had flared up over something or other...which was SD7 being "extremely upset". Turns out that SD7 has concerns about her and her dads time and love....SD7 was worried that OH would love baby more than her, and that baby wouldnt love her as much as he would love my BD7....now, sometimes I wonder about how my OH explains this, so I tried to talk to him first. I told him that re the affection, its normal for SD7 to be jealous, as its a new thing having a younger sibling. I also said that the "love" between the baby and both BD7 and SD7 would be the same, but the closeness will be different maybe, cos of the amount of time baby will be with BD7 given that SD7 doesnt live with us. I told him NOT to tell her about the closeness part, but to assure her that affection will remain the same throughout and NOT to make it into a big thing, make it out to be a "dont be daft ya sausage" kinda thing. SD7 has shown no sign of not being excited still, which is a good thing. He decided to take her out on bike for half hour to chat with her on his own as soon as MIL dropped her off....which left me sitting alone with MIL......
So MIL asked what was happening with the bedrooms now....I told her that we basically didnt have a choice given I was expecting a boy, and that SD7 would have to sleep in BD7's room when she stayed here.....she wondered if there was another way to work things, but could see that there was no choice in the matter. She asked what was happening to SD7's bed, and I told her the whole thing, no bed, bunk beds instead, SD7 taking 90% of her toys home to BM's etc etc. She looked like she was chewing a wasp at first in fairness.......
OH returned home, and the conversation resumed.....to which, in my utter surprise....MIL also understood!!!!!! If OH had any reservations or questions, they were all answered in one foul swoop by MIL, as were any concerns I had left....MIL said that ultimately "the thing is, the room has to be done so as not to infringe on BD7, as its her room, but at the same time, a place for SD7 has to be provided at the same time, so I can see that what your doing is in fairness to both and should work ok"......it was a good job I was sitting down! :jawdrop:

I then discovered (after MIL had left and had a long conversation with OH by her car!) that OH had not told SD7 about the bedroom change, yet I had spoken with my BD7....during a chat, SD7 asked where baby would sleep, and I never said anything. I was hoping that OH would pipe up and take the reins since he should have done so anyway....but alas, OH found no backbone.....so SD7 asked again and again, in the end I said that he will be in his cot in his room.....BD7 said then excitedly said that they were having bunk beds and that she wanted bottom bunk...SD7 was actually genuinely ok, and was happy that she had the top bunk too!
Myyounger brother has also just bought baby his own wardrobe and chest of drawers for his new room too...bless his cotton socks!!

So, all in all, Id say the bedroom saga is done and sorted. There may be few little niggles, but nothing that cant be sorted out!!