Last week, i got a disturbing text from my fiancee's baby mama...she said that he 10 yo was kicked out of school for biting and stabbing another child. She asked if JJ could come live with his dad temporarily as all her time and attention needs to be focussed on her 10 yo. Because of the danger that this poses to BP's 5 yo son we immediately said of course. Come the weekend, when we were putting JJ in the bath, we saw bruises on his back from shoulder to hip. When asked what happened, he said he fell. We got a more complete story from the mom, she texted us and told us that the 10 yo has been beating the 5 yo up, trying to set him on fire and talking his poop and smearing it on bedroom wall which is shared by the two boys. Our dilemna is, she only wants us to take the child for 3-6 months or until she sees it fit for him to come home. We of course don't want to do that, but don't know anything about custody. They do not have a custody order from the courts, only a verbal agreement, and that in itself has been taken advantage of. Over the course of the last year, we've had to take him for several weeks...once because the 10 yo set himself on fire and had to be rushed to the children's hospital for 2nd degree burns, the second time was when her ex-boyfriend broke into her apartment and beat her in front of the children, the third was because she wanted to teach BP a lesson on how to be a better father.
I'm not really certain on how to handle this and what we should do or how to go about it.
Need some insight on how e should handle things....if anyone out there can help, it would be much appreciated.