As of today, BM has not exercised 5 out of 8 visitations. She did not see him on Christmas or on New Year's. On Christmas eve, she texted saying that she would be picking him up by taxi. Dh called her and asked if she felt picking him up alone was a good idea considering she has a warrant out and the D.A. is working on criminal charges for her molesting SS. She is supposed to pick him up and visit with him at her mom's house, but they are not restricted there. She had been and still is fighting with her mom and sister (who lives next door to their mom). Her mom and sister were going to be a church for the first 2 hours of the visit, and she has no key. Lord only knows where she would have taken him probably to see her bf/baby daddy whom is not allowed around SS. She yelled and screamed then said "i guess i just wont see him until we go back to court"on January 17th. Basically, our theory and her mom's is that she doesn't want to see him and is just using us as the excuse.

We met with the psychological evaluator last week, so he could turn in an updated report for the next court date. He said that she "will allow him(Dh) to send him to the school he's going to, but I want him every other weekend." If that is so, then why did she file for physical custody?? He just shook his head and said he has no clue why. He said that her not showing up for the visits is not our fault no matter what we told her. She should have shown up and called the police if we prevented her from taking him. He told us that the courts don't like giving sole custody, so he wanted to know how we felt about joint custody with Dh having all medical, academic, and important decision-making authority. I asked him how is that different than sole. He said it isn't, but it just satifies BM's crazy issues with sole custody because she thinks it is equivalent to her losing all parental rights even though we have read her the legal definition many times. He also said that he had BM take another MMPI test (600+ True/False psychological test)and in order to be fair, Dh needed to take it again too. He said something that made me want to yell, scream, and gag, "you filing for that adoption really messed her up psychologically." Oh give me a damn break!!! I told him as I started tearing up "I don't regret filing for the adoption. That little boy asked me to and if it went through then he would have never been molested. The law says if you don't visit with you kid in at least 6 months, a step-parent can file for adoption. If she didn't want me to try to adopt him, she shouldn't have left his life for over a year. The only reason I didn't get it was because I got the one judge who doesn't interpret the law the way all the mountains of caselaw does."

The evaluator called Dh yesterday saying that he didn't need to go take the MMPI again because BM called him and cancelled her appointment with him. He said that he is sick of her games and doesn't want to meet with her again or "make you[Dh] go through more unnecessary trouble." He said that he is just going to write his report and give it to the court. He sounded really pissed. He told Dh that he has nothing bad to say about him in the report. The best thing he said was that "how can she want to have a relationship with her son but can't even make an appointment to talk about him." Dh had a huge smile on his face after getting that call. He said to me "you see, I told you God was working everything out for us." Then today, I got my daily encouraging word e-mail from K-Love "God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28.

We go meet with the D.A. to discuss criminal charges against BM for molesting SS. What we're hoping for is that they charge her with Sexual Battery (touching another person's genitals without consent) which carries a 10 year maximum sentence and put a protective order in place indefinitely. SS also starts therapy today with his new awesome therapist, so hopefully he can finally get the help he needs.

P.S. My mom interviewed today with the law school social justice department whose students are SS's horrible, lying, troublemaking GALs and if she gets the job, she will be their boss.