Do any DH's know how to apologize?
I've posted on here before about the lack of support I get from my DH. Well, recently, SS17 took my ipad in the middle of the night and we put cameras up about a month ago so I got the phone thing on camera. You see, I ruined whatever plans he had with my ipad because I got up to get some water in the kitchen. The cameras have him sneaking around the house trying to avoid me and then putting the ipad back to where he took it, etc. When I let DH know all about this, I tell him I want a lock on my office door. I also told him that I felt like he owed me an apology because if he had done something about his son years ago, we might not still be arguing about his taking shit! The response I got was, I'm sorry but I don't feel the need to lock up all my stuff like you do." Is that a real apology? I don't think so.
There's other examples I can give when he "apologizes" but it's never, I'm sorry my son did that and I will make sure it never happens again. It's always, I'm sorry, but............. I don't consider that a real apology? In my opinion, it belittles my feelings and makes me wonder what the hell I'm still doing here. Any thoughts?
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I bet you almost did pass
I bet you almost did pass out. My SS has apologized before but it's not sincere at all. He is basically just sorry he got caught.
Wow! Although u can't see my
Wow! Although u can't see my SS14 doing this, it has at least given me a slight glimmer of hope! So happy for you that you got the validation you deserved! Like I said, unlikely I will hear such a thing, but it guess it shows there is always a possibility!
Yeah, I doubt I'll ever get
Yeah, I doubt I'll ever get one at this point. I am so frustrated. He's going out of town again tomorrow leaving me with the manipulative SS. DH swears if I had just shown him more love when I came into this relationship, he would be completely different. When I try to explain how hard it is to show love when someone is eyeing you like they wish you were dead, it's hard to show love. SS has hated me since the second he realized he couldn't manipulate me - END OF STORY. But I'm not sure I will ever get him to see that.
Just want to firstly say that
Just want to firstly say that 2 weeks or so ago, I disengaged from DH and SS.
I would get a rare voluntary sorry from SS17 but he was just telling me the words I wanted to hear like you have been the only one that really cares about me etc. Like you, I would accept his apology and he got what he was after in IE money, a new something.
Once he got it, he went back to his nasty ways.
He also creeps about the house in the night cos I have ears like a guard dog lol. When I catch him, he says he's looking for a phone charger because his one is broken but I know he is looking for money or cigarettes. Gives me the creeps!
DH thinks he can sweeten me up with flowers which still left me very resentful.
Well this time it's not going to work because although we are living together, we are separated... Including bedrooms.
Within 3 days, he booked a flight for SS to move to his BM because he can't cope with dealing with him. It has taken him nearly 10yrs to do this.
I am elated but cannot show it because I heard him talking to his friend on the phone saying once SS is out the way then hopefully he can get back on track with our marriage. Got news for you Mr!!!! It will take a lot more than flowers to warm my heart again weather your son is here or not.
Sally-That made me laugh
Sally-That made me laugh about the middle finger! My mom chewed my butt about something when I was about 13 and when she turned around I gave her the finger. But you know us moms have eyes in the back of my head, she whipped around and grabbed me by my face and said, " If I ever see you do that again I will break that finger, I am your mother and no matter how mad you get at me you will show me respect!". I am 35 and to this day I have NEVER given her the finger again. She is all of 5' tall and I still know better! hahahah
I like the idea of pictures and video. My SD is only 8 and says ugly things to me when SO isn't in the room and then when I tell him she gives him the puppy dog eyes and says DDAAAAAAADDDDDDYYYY I didn't say that, I would never be ugly! BAHAHAH I'm going to get her on tape next time, little shithead.