Maybe now he'll actually learn...
My last blog I posted about throwing away skids' (mostly SS7) overabundant toys. It felt awesome to clear out clutter. Unfortunately, I learned today that it was just the tip of the iceberg...
For THREE WEEKS both DH and I have been trying to get SS7 to clean his room. SD5, who is normally the drama queen about this, has cleaned/tidied up her room FOUR times in this same 3 weeks. SS7 is almost out of clean clothes. His room remained a mess. Finally DH and I gave up and decided to clean it.
I'm pissed. He hasn't been taking care of his stuff. Toys, books, games, movies. DESTROYED. Some of them are new(ish). To make us THINK he's been "cleaning," he's been stuffing things into drawers, behind his dresser, in his blankets.
What pissed me off the most, though, is that he's gonna think that if he procrastinates and whines enough, he'll be able to get out of doing things he doesn't want to, because WE cleaned his room. DH doesn't see a problem. He thinks it's punishment enough that SS7 didn't get input on what's getting thrown away/sold/donated. I guarantee, HE WON'T EVEN NOTICE. He had so much crap there's no way he notices what's gone.
So, if I can, I'm changing the knob on his closet. To one that locks. I'll leave out a few things, a book or two, his ColorWonder markers/paper, a teddy bear. Everything else is going in the closet and getting locked away. Probably for at least a week. DH probably won't like it, but I AM NOT dealing with this behavior for the next 11ish years. NOT HAPPENING. I'm DONE with the attitude and defiance.
DH likes to use his autism as an excuse. These are not autistic behaviors. This is defiance, backtalking, laziness. This comes from how he's been parented. And I'm done. It doesn't take almost a month to clean a 10x12 room.
GGRRRRRR
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I love the idea of the lock
I love the idea of the lock on the closet!! My own 10 yr old daughter hates to clean her room. She shoves things in corners, drawers and the closet just to pretend she cleaned it. She is fully capable of cleaning but has been lazy. Once every couple of months I go in there with 3 or 4 trash bags and throw away so much and she usually can't figure out what is missing.
It actually makes me mad that I get so frustrated that I end up cleaning it myself while she is at school. Then a couple of days later it is a disaster again. I keep letting her get away with it so she is not learning anything at all!!
I think this week I am going to have her box up all of her stuff and she will have an empty room because she cannot seem to keep it clean. I am gonna make her earn her stuff back and the minute its messy again it all goes back in the boxes.
I get so frustrated that I hate to even walk into her room because you never know what its gonna look like!! She blames it all on BD3.
She has no idea whats coming her way }:)
SS7 does the same thing to DH
SS7 does the same thing to DH and I. He thinks going to his moms for the weekend is a way to not clean his room. All weekend DH and I shut the door and when ss gets home he has to clean it right away. He does know to take his dirty clothes and put them in the bathroom hamper. There is no messing around with clothes. When he and his mom have him come home in pajamas and he has no jeans to wear to school then we make him wear pajamas to school on the the day she picks him up. There was one time only and since then he comes home wearing jeans and sometimes has an extra in his bag. DH and I both know not to buy ss things because he doesn't play with what he has. ss knows too that if I'm going to vacuum that his room must be clean or I will suck up his legos. He doesn't want them sucked up then he better clean his room. That's better then cleaning it myself.
Scare your ss into sucking up his legos and not having clean clothes
Dogs already ate most of his
Dogs already ate most of his legos. He doesn't care about clean clothes. He'll wear the same outfit Friday to Sunday if we let him.