Just when I thought things were going good.
DH has been handling everything for SS7. And he's done quiet well - or so I thought.
DH has school today so he took SS7 to his mother's house because I refuse to watch a 7 year old that is so disrespectful. After they had left DH called me and said SS7 "thinks" he forgot his library book (NOTE: SS7 is supposed to do homework at his grandparent's house because he's so far behind at school but routinely misplaces books so he doesn't have to read them and we received a bill from the school for 3 missing books.) and DH asked me to look in SS7's backpack for the book so he knows if it's in the car somewhere or if he really forgot it. So, I go in SS7's room.
SS7's room is generally in disaray but today it is pretty neat and clean from what I can see. I'm feeling pretty good at this point. I find his backpack and open it to find it stuffed to the brim. So I dump it out on his bed, which, I now notice has the covers pullled over as if it's made but there are no sheets and the blankets are jumbled. (NOTE: SS7 was supposed to wash his sheets and remake his bed last night as his chore - chores he has to do before we let him go to his grandparent's house and chores we pay him for!) There are so many lose papers I have to dig thru to see there aren't any books. I also notice a booklet of stickers that I gave to BD1 a week ago, some pencils that I just bought and have been looking for, and some money that I'm pretty sure was sitting on the counter. Now, I'm livid. SS7 has been in trouble before and we made it very clear that no matter what he steals, big or small: stealing is stealing. He stole those stickers, he stole my pencils, and I'm pretty sure he stole that money from the counter.
I go thru SS7's agenda and see he did better at school this week. He has marks for being off task but he hasn't had any issues with being a bully, lying, stealing, etc. I then open his closet to find a massive pile of clothes, toys, garbage, food, etc. in there and the smell is horendous. I also notice he's taken one of the family games is hidden in there and the pieces are scattered and missing (he's not allowed to take the family games because he loses pieces or breaks them and he's been punished for this a hundred times before).
Now, I'm livid. I sent DH a text to let him know but SS7 is gone for the weekend and by Monday when he gets home it'll be all forgotten about.
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Dump everything back in the
Dump everything back in the middle of his room, including the stuff from his backpack (can be in it's own little pile on the side so important school stuff isn't lost), and his blankets from his bed... then don't say a word to SS when he gets home, just send him up to straighten his room.
In my house the crying and fit throwing would start at that point and we get to look at them and say... You should have done it right the first time.
OR
I guess you could bag it all (except the trash) and "loose" it until he can keep his room clean with the stuff that is left. Maybe then he'll know how it feels to have his stuff 'stolen'.
For every item he takes from
For every item he takes from the family I would let the theft victim go shopping for one item in ss's room with him present. Make him understand what it feels like to be the victim of having your important things taken