I mentioned some things that the therapist said to me, to my boyfriend. And he said he has been thinking about them.
He said losing his job does not scare him, getting inured at work, being unable to make a house payment, nothing scares him,... But it scares him to say he wants to be with me for the rest of our lives and it equally scares him at the thought of losing me,... But he does not know why he keeps postponing marriage,... So he said he wants to go with me to therapy and wants to go by himself also. So he can't figure this stuff out and figure out what he needs to do, why he isn't doing it on his own.
After he said this, he said we are getting a housekeeper.
I told him I thought I should move out while he figures this stuff out. He said if I really wanted to he would help me however he could, but that he does not want me moving out to be the ends of us. He wants to do what he can to keeps me.

So breakthrough moment?

He is getting a housekeeper, service will come qhen no one is home...don't know if the kids should know about the housekeeper, I can't see good and bad about them knowing,...

But I think this is a step in the roght direction, at least, and he knows going to therapy isn't going to keeps me living with him,...

It is the first time I have ever heard him admit that he needs help with the way hw feels.