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just kicked SD18's ass out

TickedOff's picture

I hear my DD6 run up to SD18.

DD- sissy I cleaned my room

SD - I don't care

DD-Its clean can you help me put my dollhouse

SD- I don't caaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaare leaveme A-lone!

DD- But daddy said

SD- I don't care get out of my face, move, get the f*ck out of my face are you f*ckin retarded move

Ticked stomps up the stairs " DD go downstairs. who the hell you think you talking to. That is your little sister what the hell is wrong with you? Don't you ever EVER talk to her like that again. Do you hear me?".

SD- Oh my God shut up so tired of this house

Ticked- then move out then

SD- walks to her room slams the door and mumbles " you lucky I don't punch you in your fat ass face"

Ticked - burst into her room like its in flames " you want to punch me punch me right now! I wish you would. I'm a grown woman you're a grown woman we can go. You want to put your hands on me?"

SD- get out of my room

Ticked- honey this is not your room this is my house my room

SD- get out! good bye! I'm not scared of you.

Ticked- pack your sh*t and call your aunt you don't live here anymore

SD- waits until I walk out of the room and throws a text book it hit the door.

I can not stand these girls. And yes if she would have put her hands on me she would have been done. You would have seen me on the news. My blood pressure is so high right now I can't. DH better get SD15 in check because if she tries something next I'm done. Somebody please tell me how to deal with teenagers because they are about to send me to the nice house with padded walls.

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kathc's picture

^^^^^^yes^^^^^^^

Give her an hour.

Anything she doesn't pack in that hour, then tell her you will box up and have ready for her at X day at X time. They will be out on the driveway. They go to the trash if not picked up. Don't give her all the time in the world to pack all her stuff and include anything else she wants to take with her that isn't hers.

somedevilishbeauty's picture

screw boxes, toss a roll of garbage bags in her room and tell her she has one hour to get out.... }:)

TickedOff's picture

nope daddy is not going to save her. He called her from work and let her know how dissapointed he is in her. BM is in prison so she will be going to stay with BM's sister.

boogeymom's picture

BM is in prison? Maybe the apples might not fall so far from the tree... Yup, she's 18, time to toss her ass out. She's an adult, time for her to be on her own, hopefully she'll be enough of an example that her sister won't follow suit.

TickedOff's picture

not backing down. She has got 45 minutes and counting to finish packing or I will do it for her.

Anon2009's picture

I agree, sd needs to move out. And in the future, I think you need to ask your dd to come to you/dh if she wants to play/needs help with something. I know little kids are annoying to teens but they still should show them courtesy and kindness as the older and physically larger people. But it doesn't sound like your SDs are capable of that (yet, anyway). So until things change, you'll have to try to minimize dds contact with SDs as much as possible.

Perhaps your dh will look into getting sd15 some professional help. If bm is in prison she has a lot to be angry about. As her dad it's his job to help her learn how to deal with it better. Sd18 probably could benefit from help too but it's now on her to get it. Maybe you all could get family counseling. You might all benefit from having a professional helping to change this situation.

QueenBeau's picture

I think it's too late to go back on the 1 hr note. I would suggest having DH set up a time when she can come back and collect anything she forgot. Then he can have a discussion with her. I don't think it's a good idea for her to stay in the house all day with SM & the 6 yr old waiting on her dad to get home.

Justme54's picture

Amen!

purpledaisies's picture

So what if mom is in prison? My niece and nephews mom is in prison and they wouldnt dream of acting that way. That is an excuse and sorry live has no room for excuses when comes to treating others like shit just b/c you think you are cheated since a parent is not around. Samething with when a child's dad is not in their lives that is also not an excuse! Both my.kids dad has not seen them since they were babies and no way would they dream of acting like that.

She may have issues but its not an excuse to let her act the way she did.

purpledaisies's picture

I guess I misunderstood b/c the way I read it you were saying she should be giving her lots of lead way just b/c her mom is in prison.

I don't think there should be much understanding going on with someone who Did and said what she did and to a child no less. I think op handled it just fine.
Besides sd had no understanding to for her younger sister she was so mean to her. So no understanding for sd she is an adult for goodness sake.

TickedOff's picture

She is gone her aunt came and picked her up. I didn't scream and holler I just let her pack her bags calmly and leave and DH is going to talk to her later. I know DH will not let this rest so he will probably end up paying for her to go to counseling. Who knows she might grow and change from this and in the future we can fix the bridge and walkover it who knows. This is just not a good start to my weekend. I need a drink.

purpledaisies's picture

Ticked you did the right thing. And no her mom being in prison is not an excuse nor anything else for that matter. No one should let her use that as an excuse either. That is the worst thing anyone can do to.anyone.

As I said my brother's kids mom is in prison and I know him well enough to know he wouldn't let them ever use that as a crutch.

purpledaisies's picture

As I said my kids dad abandoned them when they were little and I still wouldnt give them any slack for the way thus adult acted if she were my child. That again is an excuse and I have no room for excuses if you want to be a normal human being. Life happens and she isn't the only one who has a parent in jail or abandoned them. Geez

Bossladee's picture

Ok, so yeah, little brothers/sisters are annoying, absolutely. Not wanting to help her little sister, ok, whatever, kinda mean. But cursing at her and calling her a nasty name? That is wrong and very mean. That kind of shit pisses me off....just cuz SD is in a bitchy mood or mad at the world or whatever does NOT give her the freedom to treat a little kid like shit....shame on her!!! I'm glad you kicked her out, who knows how it will work out long term but for now, good.