hex doesn't want SD to have friends
DH mentioned this morning that SD hasn't been over to one of her friends house in months. SD essentially has only two friends: one the lives across the street from us, and one that lives a few houses down from hex. The one that lives near hex moved there in July and is in the same third grade class as SD.
From what SD has told me, her friend is frustrated with the fact SD is mean to other kids in the class and doesn't want to be labeled as "mean" for being friends with SD as well. They went through a rough patch. However, they still play together during recess and from what I have seen/have heard they made up. Like all kids her age do. Hex had told SD on the phone weeks ago that she doesn't need to play with said girl if she doesn't want to and that it's okay to not have friends or people to play with. My mouth dropped when I heard hex say that .
DH ran into the girls father at the store yesterday and apparently SD hasn't been over to her friends house in two months. DH asked SD why she hadn't been over to her friends house and SD responded with,
"My mom says she would rather me spend time and be with her."
Huh. I find this somewhat intriguing. SDs friend was essentially the first kid to have play dates with SD at Hexs house. We always had birthday parties, sleepovers, play dates for SDs school friends here. Hex has no friends. No boyfriend. DH never met a single friend of hers, and she never spoke of any when they were married. Now ordinarily, I would not judge someone for that. I have a fair amount of friends I hang out with, however I am an introvert and I've gone through periods in my life where friends shift, move away, etc. I'm fine being alone. I also thought it was somewhat mean of DH to bring up she has no friends. However as the years have gone by...I think it's because nobody genuinely likes hex. She's just a socially awkward, conceited and mean soul.
And now I'm seeing a pattern: hex has told SD for years she doesn't need a father, SD belongs with her at her real home, etc.
Now she is telling SD that she doesn't need friends, SD doesn't have to go there (making SD 'choose').
Obviously there could be other factors....but the girls parents are very nice. Sometimes seems "off" here.
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Yup. That's pretty much how
Yup. That's pretty much how it has been and what I realized years ago.
It's so sad and so sick.
That's really sad. Sounds
That's really sad. Sounds like because BM has no friends, she wants SD to be friendless so they can cling to each other. How unhealthy. Parents should never put their happiness on their kids. I feel sad for your SD. I hope you can continue to encourage her to have friends in your neighborhood so she can grow up to be social and well adjusted. That's so demented that her own mother would deny her a childhood with friends and play dates and birthday parties.
Chucky has no friends with
Chucky has no friends with BM. She would have to helicopter parent. There are no play dates and his sole entertainment outside of school peers is his older brother. It's a messed up situation.
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