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Submitted by Toastergirl on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 9:57pm

DD is 9 months old. I miss being pregnant; I truly enjoyed it. My brother and I are close in age, and I would love to give DD a brother. DH also wants a boy, but we know a girl is always a possibility. I do wonder how crazy things would get with SD (9) and then two girls close in age. I never had a sister, but some friends do and they are either intensely close or mortal enemies it seems like.

That being said, DH wants to wait "a while". Should I push him for a timeline to re-discuss it? I'm hesitant because I don't want to be dictating at all about our reproductive life. DD still doesn't sleep through the night and I know that is a huge factor in DH wanting to postpone another.

I will also add that one of DH's sister made a comment at Christmas that we would be crazy to have more children because it would negatively affect SD since she doesn't even like DD. *eyeroll* I do slightly fear this would alienate SD from us even more. But then the logical side of me knows Hex will find anything and everything to alienate her from us. And Im not revolving my decision to have more children around SD.

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Submitted by MommyNotMommy on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 10:32pm

Keep talking about it. We talk about it all the time! SD is 8, stb9. Some days it seems like a good idea to us, some days not so much. I, too, loved being pregnant, and BS is now 13 mths. When it consistently seems like a good idea for both of us, I guess we'll do it! I do think we'll end up having at least one more, I just don't know when yet.

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Submitted by MommyNotMommy on Thu, 04/02/2015 - 10:35pm

And, SD hating your DD shouldn't be a factor except in the ways it will make your life difficult, i.e. Sometimes you will need to "divide and conquer" the kids, and your hubby will take SD (for five minutes or an hour or an afternoon or a weekend, however it works in your house), and you will have both your bios... So bear that in mind. I think that might start to make me resentful after a while.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Fri, 04/03/2015 - 7:01am

Don't let SD decide for you guys. That is just crazy talk.

As long as you can afford another kid- financially, emotionally and mentally then go ahead and start the talk with your DH.

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Submitted by NoWireCoatHanga... on Fri, 04/03/2015 - 7:19am

I have four daughters. 7 months (suprise!) 6, 7, and 10. My girls are thick as thieves. Everywhere we go I usually walk behind them and can snap a picture of the three of them holding hands. I say the best gift I ever gave my children is each other. Yes I wanted a boy but it didn't happen and I ain't trying again as I'm 39 but I say go for it if you can get your husband on board.