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What age do step kids move out?

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Submitted by trusag on Tue, 01/06/2015 - 5:10pm

I am curious? What is the average age for step kids to move out? do they typically reside with bio mom after 18? I am not sure i want adult step kids in my new home. What is fair

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Submitted by arjuna79 on Tue, 01/06/2015 - 5:31pm

First of all, there is no "fair." by the time they're approaching 18 they've usually got a strategy for mooching off whoever's got the open door, indefinitely. And yes, "adults" fail out of "real life" and crawl back into the basement, leaving a trail of fetid trash behind them. Launching of skids who have been pas'd and learned how to play the system, play the system straight into adulthood.

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Submitted by trusag on Tue, 01/06/2015 - 5:37pm

Ughh! I don't have bio kids. They are are lazy kids and their parents baby them..(guilt) I hope they make them responsible somehow. They wont live with me forever. I will not "buy" a house with enough bedrooms for both kids. 3 bdr and 1 room will be an office. Is that mean it is my money.

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Submitted by trusag on Tue, 01/06/2015 - 5:45pm

Yes, bm does not work and is supported by new hubby. GED education. Does not enforce hw upon kids. Grades are somewhat poor. Sad... but they are not my teenagers. This is not my fight, and it is hard on dad when he has them 50 % ,unfortunately. Child support should mandate passing grades as a condition of primary custody.

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Submitted by amackeral on Tue, 01/06/2015 - 6:42pm

My mom always told us we could live at home as long as we were either

a) Working full time, and paying our own bills (phone, car, gas, insurance, clothes, etc).
b) Going to school full time and working part time to pay our own bills.

BUT we still had to live by her rules, since we were still living under HER roof Smile

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Submitted by z3girl on Tue, 01/06/2015 - 7:36pm

I moved out when I went off to college at 18, so I don't understand SD23, and many of the adult skids on here. It was voluntary, and I looked forward to living on my own.

SD23 still lives with BM. She's been out of college for over a year and a half. DH won't allow her to live with us. He says once all kids are out of college (including ours someday) then they have 6 months to figure it out. My feeling is that I will only bend that rule if there's a firm plan in place. (Saving money for a place, etc).

SD23 told me at Christmas that she is looking for a job in another state, and will move in to her aunt and uncle's basement (in that state) until she gets on her feet. On the one hand it's good she's looking to leave BM, but what incentive is there to leave her aunt and uncle's? I don't understand, but fortunately it's not my problem!