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SS has spent several nights
SS has spent several nights in jail. Even his mother will not bail him out anymore.
DH would have in a second - except that I totally control the purse strings and that is not happening.
Not that I hate SS. He's kind of sweet and has always been nice to me. I just refuse to be financially responsible for her son. She is the one who had the ONS that produced him. She is the one who tossed him on the streets at 15 - not me. She is the one who was a shitty mother not me.
Not saying DH could not have been a much better father. But I am talking about ME not him. I did not spread my legs with no birth control. I did not abandon him. I did not treat him like trash. So I am not going to spend my hard earned money bailing his ass of of trouble. I do feel sorry for him for having such a shitty mother and uninvolved father - but IT IS NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY.
Damn right, it's not your
Damn right, it's not your responsibility!
And that's what this boils down to.
I didn't get myself pregnant by deceit, just to keep a man in my life. I didn't raise SD to be the boss in the family who gets everything she wants. I didn't clean up her messes and tell her she was right to make them because her "father left." I didn't train SD to bully me so she could have whatever she wanted. And I don't blame all of SD's problems on SO, just to absolve myself of any possible guilt and plunge further into denial about SD's drug problem. I will not contribute to the extending of SD's childhood.
SD is F---d right now. Pardon my language. And I feel for her. I miss the way she used to be before the drugs. But I am not going to give another day of my life to the pursuit of her ego driven, confused destruction. I have my own life to live, and get this: I don't have kids because I decided not to have them. Simple as that. I may have one some day, but for now, I couldn't be happier with SO and my dogs.
I'll gladly spent $300-400 to
I'll gladly spent $300-400 to board my dog when we are gone for two weeks - but don't want to spend $100 on bailing out my SS.
I reminded DH that SS has spent countless $ on alcohol and weed.
The dogs are way sweeter than
The dogs are way sweeter than SD, and they never steal anything from me...money, cell phones, food, jewelry, makeup, underwear... well, ok, maybe they steal my underwear sometimes but it's way cuter when they do it. And somehow it's not nearly as disgusting.
They never scream or slam doors. They are always honest with me. Most of all, my pups are grateful. They don't take me for granted or take advantage of me.
If BM didn't refuse to acknowledge my existence, I would tell her it's a bad idea to bail out SD, because she'll never learn a lesson... but though SD has wasted an untold amount of BM's money on drugs, speeding tickets, etc, BM continues to allow herself to be shat on. She's a bonifide martyr.
When BM stops the coddling, SD will begin to grow. Until then, she'll continue to be stunted.
Oh, and we're not talking a
Oh, and we're not talking a $100 bailout. We're talking twelve times that amount. And that's just for the lawyer's retainer. Yep. BM got a lawyer.