Don't get the skids anything - they have a mother and I am sure that your DH pays really good CS - so tell the kids that they got a nice basket from their BM and DH helped pay for it - why do kids need 2 baskets - tooooooooo much sugar!!!! And if DH gets pissed let him go out and get it!!!

My son is 24yrs old and for the first time I am not going to make him a Easter basket. Figured it would be to creepy since he has a live in GF now. I would like to make SS13 a basket but don't want to make SS17,16 or 11 one for the same reason as you txcajun. I feel bad about it but I have to stop being a doormat for them to disrespect and criticize. I will probably give a small basket when SS13 comes over by himself. I won't tell him not to tell other SS but I just don't have it in me to be mean enough to give it to him in front of brothers. P.S. I did not give SS17 a Christmas present last year. I told DH I do not reward for bad behavior.

I have decided to not do the Easter basket/gift this year for skids.

Last year Christmas, I (myself only) scrimped and saved little by little over the course of MONTHS to buy gifts without going into debt. (DH did not think ahead)..... So, I shopped, paid for, wrapped, etc. several very nice gifts for FOUR skids! (This, on top of baking, cards, parties, decorating, etc., which, don't get me wrong, I LOVE to do)

Two days after Christmas, oldest SD decides she's going back to school, several days early, leaving half her gifts behind.(?) SS14 complained for about a week that he "got NOTHING for Christmas!"

They went to collect BM's gifts and came home and gushed about it. Soooooo.....I definitely learned my lesson.

I was never all that into the "gift" thing anyway. Christmas isn't about presents. It's about God, family, traditions, etc. Time for me to step back and let their parents do the holidays however they see fit. I am Soooooo looking forward to Christmas this year, keeping the focus where it belongs. Same thing for Easter.. I am celebrating the resurrection of J.C. and maybe coloring some eggs.

IF my ss is here I have always done things for him as well. Not that it made any difference. I made easter baskets last year-of course ss wasnt speaking to me-in fact I think he was really especially angry with me at the time (although I cant recall why)-dh did not let him have the easter basket that morning since I am the one who did the whole thing-however, he caved and gave it to ss right as he was leaving and told ss to thank me which of course he gave me the requisite fake gratitude and left.

What gets me is that ss would be outraged if he woke up on easter morning at our house and there was nothing there for him. Now, he wouldnt necessarily be mad at his dad-as it would definitely by my fault somehow. It would be further "proof" to him that I am a wicked old stepmother.

Once my daughter was grown, I just had the "Beer Bunny" come. Let's face it, they didn't want a ton of candy once they were 21! So, she and her husband (and their friends) get baskets from the Beer Bunny every year. I usually do some beer, wine coolers, and lots and lots of munchies. If I find a good movie, I toss it in there. They all get a kick out of it.

I do NOTHING for the skids anymore. They didn't appreciate it when they got baskets with gift cards tucked inside of giant plastic eggs. SD wanted to return the diamond earrings I put in an egg for her. To hell with them! Let their sorry BM take care of them! I will take care of mine!

Dh and I have a deal. If I want to do for skids whatever I do for my own kids, he'd like that fine IF I don't expect a thank you or any acknowledgement from his loser kids. Otherwise he expects I will not do anything for his kids. I think yayyyyy more for mine.

IF they would be with you Easter morning I would buy something. If they aren't there, I wouldn't. My skids won't be getting anything from us- maybe a card and cash....but doubt that. DD's though will be a different story.....

Santa only comes to the kids that wake up Christmas morning at my house. DD11 is the last to believe and for the last 3 years- we have Christmas on Christmas morning. Not on Christmas eve when that is our year for the skids- DD parents are not divorced- so why should she always be the one to sacrifice.

I think if skid are with you, when you give your kids the Easter basket, then you really need to get them one also. It would be kind of cruel not too. If they are not there, I would not worry about it.

Also…be prepared, if you tell your DH that you are not getting anything for his little “darlings” and that if he wants them to have something, he should go get it himself…then be prepared for him to go WAY overboard and make your baskets to your kids look tiny. I bet he would spend triple on his kids baskets. Thus making your kids feel bad.

Men have no concept of money sometimes.

not our w/e this year so skids get NADA!! even when it is our w/e i usually get them the dollar store crap like, maybe spend $8.00 total on the two. i have bought nice easter baskets in the past and i get no more thanks (none) then when they get $ store shit, so who cares ~ not me.

next easter, they will be too old to get anything from me (ss12, sd15)

another plus for not our w/e this year is mil can stick her holiday dinner up her ass, dh & i are going away for the long w/e! }:)

My SD always steals other people stuff out of their baskets. Happens every year. I know she does it though because I always personalize each basket. She denies it every time but we know she does it. She is 12 now and I am not doing baskets either (but my Bioson is 12 also and he is not getting one either, just my little kids, ages 4 and 1)

I agree about if the skids are with you they should get something. But then again, why should they get two baskets? Although I am not sure if BM buys them one or not - I guess I always assumed she did even if they weren't with her Easter morning. I was thinking as well about NOT buying the skids anything for Easter this year but I am not sure DH would agree. I guess if he doesn't, he can always be the one to go buy them something.

OK Some of us must be southern!! It is very hard for me to be rude. BUT I am taking lessons. }:) From the SS's I will not (and it kills me I mean I have to have a conversation with myself and remind myself why every single time.) cook, clean or make extras for SS17,16,SS11. My Dh was uncomfortable Christmas when I refused to have MY money sent on SS17. Oh well sucks to be him. I also told in-laws and everyone if I see someone stealing from our property I will shoot first ask later. Now that is straight from the south ladies. I was single for 12years when I meet DH. I still keep bat next to front door, back door and bed. I also keep my equalizer very near me. I may be short but I make up for it in the BOOM!!! They still try to trip me up by asking for something simple but I will catch myself jumping and stop. The look on their face! DEFEAT. I may do false starts but I will never race for them again. STAY STRONG txcajun.