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Submitted by Unhappy on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 1:03pm

What would you guys do it your DH told you about how hot his ex wifes body was when they first met?

This was something that was said to me last night when we were at a concert for a date night. To me this crosses some boundaries.

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Submitted by forsakingallothers on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 1:07pm

This happened to me. I looked at him and I said something like the following, "Is that supposed to make me feel better as to why you chose a psycho for a wife? It may make you feel better like yeah, there really was a reason why I married that loon, but I still have my doubts. No great body could make up for that sick mind."

Never heard another peep about it and we have been together for years. I think it is just justification of why they (our DH's) made such a horrible mistake. I knew he wasn't interested in her...FOR SURE. Whatever, right?! He is with you and married to you! YAY!

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Submitted by oneoffour on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 1:08pm

Random or was it part of the discussion?
I suppose you could have responded with "Ahhh, beer goggles."

I don't know if it crosses boundaries. It certianly was one of the most tactless things to say. Maybe she was hot back then. Maybe she was hot but the minute she opened her mouth it all fell apart. You can't change history. He thought she wa smoking back then (xx years ago). And as i said, beer goggles. Or as my DH explained it to me, men in their teens and 20s usually will take anything to get some. Yeah, whatever babe.

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Submitted by Unhappy on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 1:18pm

It was part of a discussion that we were having. I thought that I saw somebody there that I had dated. Wasn't him. He just had similar facial features. DH thought that he was not attractive and made some comment about having higher standards or some sh!t like that and I reminded him of who is fist wife was. That's when he made the comment about how hot her body was.

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Submitted by StickAFork on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 1:53pm

I would rather be with a short, fat, butt ugly man who is kind, loving, and honorable, than a hot asshole.

To me, that's having higher standards!

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Submitted by bi on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 3:27pm

sounds to me like he made that crass comment out of jealousy. he had no reason to comment on that guy, especially if it wasn't even your ex. he just doesn't like that you had a life before you met him. i had an ex who couldn't stand that i wasn't a virgin with no past when i met him, even though he was a man whore. (eye roll)

Unhappy's picture

Submitted by Unhappy on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 1:11pm

I know he didn't say it because he's interested in her. He thinks she's an effing nut job. But it really does make you think about the fact that the really have no clue of when they should keep their mouth shut.

I let him read a post on her once from a step father who listed several things that all step father's should do or not do and talking about the ex was on that list so that's what I reminded him of last night.

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Submitted by Not_what_I_wanted on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 1:45pm

So very true. They truly dont know when to shut it up. I've heard that from DH, ONCE. I told him, you can say whatever makes you feel better, but I have seen the pictures.

Would LOVE to read that list you mention, if you happen to have it or can find it.

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Submitted by Unhappy on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 1:57pm

I have it pulled up on my account at home. I'll get it to you when I'm done working for the day. I just had DH read it the other day. It seemed to make since to him.

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Submitted by Unhappy on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 3:32pm

I know that Ripley. But with all of the crap his ex has pulled, which I am sure that you are aware of, I would have thought he would have avoided the comment completely.