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Submitted by valdis26 on Mon, 11/07/2011 - 8:53am

I'm just annoyed that is seems like when ever my husbands crazy ex wife and crazy kid want something he's always right there. But when I need help with something (idk, cleaning the house, help paying bills, help fixing something, mowing the lawn) he can't seem to find the time. I hate that every time we have brat for the weekend, she has to call several times, but when my Husband calls to talk to his daughter, the phone is never answered or doesn't get a call back until a couple days later. I hate that his ex lives off of my tax money when I work overtime just to make ends meat and this BM lives with her dad (cause another boyfriend threw her lazy butt out) and mooches off her 60yr old father with diabetes who still works, but yet shes the one with the disabilities and can't work. My step daughter is 12yrs old and can't dress herself or maintain personal hygiene. I know she has seizures, but at the age of 12 she should know how to button her own shirt correctly and I'm always considered the "bad guy" when I make her do things for herself. How is she gonna learn and if I disciplined her; she goes home and makes up lies about me and my husband because she didn't get her way. At 12yrs old I would aspect better or more majority, but unfortunately her mothers isn't either. I'm just tired of it.

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newmom01's picture

Submitted by newmom01 on Mon, 11/07/2011 - 9:04am

I asked dh to stoprunning errands for bm a while back and he did, She is remarried, she knew my dh work scherduale and would call him to take food to ss's while they were at there aunts house. thier aunt is an adult with a car, so why could she not go get food? there are a ton of food places two blocks down?

He is no longer your husband! do not make my dh go do things that you or your new dh can do. He is thier father, but not you husband/errand runner. There are other things too, but I just gave this one example.

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Submitted by WeddedBliss.sofar on Mon, 11/07/2011 - 9:43am

My DH used to jump to do BM's bidding when we were first dating.

Fast forward to the day he proposed: "Wedded, will you marry me?" Me, "I'm sorry I can't. You already have a wife." That got his head spinning. I then explained to him that I would love to marry him, but *I* come first. BM needs to start doing things for herself, or find someone else who can do it. Also, I explained to him that he and BM were doing a disservice to their daughters by not showing them how to be independent. I reminded him that BM, at 37, still lives with her Dad, who pays ALL the bills, and that would be our future with his daughters if SOMEONE didn't force BM to grow up and learn how to handle LIFE on her own.

We got married this past August. He does NOTHING for BM anymore.