Update: Boogers,banning and messes
I was going to post a topic with updates to my current "issues" and realized we are supposed to use a blog when not asking for advice. (When just it's just therapeutic to write it out). So here goes:
Booger Couch: SS continues to have to sit on sheet on couch and just this morning saw him pick nose and wipe it on sheet. I told DH and it just further reinforced my contention that he has to sit on thing for a LONG time, until he grows out of this disgusting habit!
Banning: DH agreed last night that SD will NOT come in our room. He said "it will take a while before she understands and stops coming in" and I said, sweetie, again, even if she wasn't "gifted", a 10 year old can understand "don't enter this room for any reason". I told DH, I hope for both of you that she (for once) obeys a simple rule because if she walks in my room I am JUMPING UP, going to her and telling her firmly "You are not supposed to be in here, please go NOW". This will be a huge shock as Skids are normally handled with kid gloves (BARF) and I usually don't deal directly with them.
Also, told DH that SS and my bio kids ARE allowed in. He said ")Okay but SD won't understand why she is the only one who can't come in". I said, just tell her the truth -- she causes problems in here (sneaks in/eavesdrops, messes with things, IGNORES us when we ask her to stop messing with things, flops on bed with dirty feet, etc) and the other kids DON'T do those things, and that is why she alone is banned. Simple, no? Surely his little genius can understand that?
Messes: I told DH that he has to deal with SD's messes. I will not be cleaning any of them any more. He agreed to be on the lookout and make the extra effort of cleaning them or making her clean them.
So... since these are my 3 big issues with them currently (I will ignore all the others, can't win em all), things are looking up as far as relief. I hope I have finally made some headway after years of build up! I finally put my foot down and I think it might be working!
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i understand how u feel. my
i understand how u feel. my bd has anbest when he is alone autistic son and he plays best when he is alone. when he starts hollering and running in circles i tell bd to put him in his room to calm down. well bd sometimes is like "i dont want to just leave him in there alone" and my responce is well hell go in there with him but get him out of my site especially when he starts that when we are eating. i mean thats a good way to spoil someones appetite.
the little boy only eats like chips and finger foods and rice on rare occasions and bd gives him finger foods or chips and his sticks his whole hand and the chip in his mouth and runs around touching every thing with his sticky hands(tv, mirrors, furniture, etc) i have compained to bd about this and he has gotten better with this cleanup but my bd just doesn't clean how i would so i still have to go behind him and clean it again.
i understand how u feel. my
i understand how u feel. my bd has anbest when he is alone autistic son and he plays best when he is alone. when he starts hollering and running in circles i tell bd to put him in his room to calm down. well bd sometimes is like "i dont want to just leave him in there alone" and my responce is well hell go in there with him but get him out of my site especially when he starts that when we are eating. i mean thats a good way to spoil someones appetite.
the little boy only eats like chips and finger foods and rice on rare occasions and bd gives him finger foods or chips and his sticks his whole hand and the chip in his mouth and runs around touching every thing with his sticky hands(tv, mirrors, furniture, etc) i have compained to bd about this and he has gotten better with this cleanup but my bd just doesn't clean how i would so i still have to go behind him and clean it again.
SS5 does this. I told FDH I
SS5 does this. I told FDH I was tired of cleaning snot off the couch and he agreed with my decision: any time we catch ss5 picking his nose on the couch, he gets kicked off the couch and he gets socks put on his hands to keep him from shoving his fingers up his nose.
It's been working pretty well. If your SO is supportive, I'd try something a bit more harsh. Having to sit on a sheet isn't very much a punishment.
Good luck!