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Submitted by vera3 on Mon, 05/09/2011 - 6:25pm

SS13's BM informed us that she is taking him to counseling. Yet another way she can stick us with a bill. Oh and she says that SS would like "everyone to be there". Hmm, does that mean she is saying we ALL should be there, me too? And my kids? Or does she mean, her, DH and SS? Yes I think she has smoked crack and actually thinks DH is going to go to a counseling session with her and SS so that they he can sit there and listen to SS complain that we don't buy him enough toys and video games like his mom does, that we don't take him to restaurants like his mom does, that we make him sit on a sheet on the couch because he WON'T STOP PICKING HIS BOOGERS AND FLICKING THEM ON UPHOLSTERED COUCH, that we make him (gasp) put his dishes in the dishwasher, unlike at his slob of a mothers house.

If we thought SS needed counseling, WE would take him to a counselor of our choice, TOGETHER, because we run this household together. BM thinks she can just up and take him to a counselor, try to get DH to attend so that he can listen to bullshit, and then stick us with half the bill.

I wish dearly that BM and Skids would all disappear until Skids were both 18 and DH could have a relationship with his kids without this pushy, crazy monster trying to interfere. SHE is the one who decided she wanted to "be single" (barf), left her husband paying the mortgage and bills alone and LEFT HER KIDS BEHIND FOR OVER A YEAR, while she played single and lived 45 mins away, with her much younger "roommate", living a delusion that she was young and single and, hello, pretending the single life DIDN'T INCLUDE THOSE PESKY THINGS CALLED HER 2 KIDS, only saw her kids a few days after school IN DH's HOUSE which he was kind (stupid?) enough to let her use her key and come into and use for her "visiting her kids" time purposes...

And now years later she just can't leave things alone and is trying to say SS needs counseling and wants us to foot the bill. Well he seems perfectly happy to us! You know who is the one who is unhappy and needs counseling? BM, who is guilt ridden and can't stand the fact that DH is no longer under her control and can't stand that for the 50% of the time that we have her kids, that she can't control THEM and has to let us take care of them the way we see fit!

Whew, I am pissed!!!! This is just a rant!!!

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Submitted by hismineandours on Mon, 05/09/2011 - 8:52pm

If your dh doesnt go then all the counselor will ever get is bm's biased view. Your dh should go and at least present his concerns so that the counselor will be in the best position to assist your son.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Tue, 05/10/2011 - 1:04am

I think it's ridiculous to expect both parents to be there. If she is as crazy as our ex-witch, I would not agree. Fact is that more than likely the kid will only feel more stressed w/both parents there...as the odds are that one will more than likely use this to bash the other household and the other will either have to bite their tongue or end up defending themselves which is not good anyway. I think the kid can go w/one parent and if anything comes up about the other parent, that parent can talk to the counselor separately or w/the kid.

Sorry, but although these kids did not choose a divorce, the parents did. And it is stupid and ridiculous to want to continúe living as if they were still one happy family even at a counselor's office.

I will say this might help YOUR household, but I cannot see the benefit of both parents attending. It will only cause moré stress for the kid.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Tue, 05/10/2011 - 1:10am

PS once you divorce, you do not dictate your ex's life or beliefs. If medical decisions are to be made jointly, that means jointly. If one parent says no and the other yes, a court can override them but should not expect the parent against the medical procedure to be present or agree to it.

Oops, sorry, I forgot that divorced dads have no freedom...courts and ex's can dictate their lives...

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Submitted by Auteur on Tue, 05/10/2011 - 8:10am

"Oops, sorry, I forgot that divorced dads have no freedom...courts and ex's can dictate their lives..."

Truer words were never spoken.

Umm is your BM a clone of the Behemoth? Only difference is that the Behemoth has played "MOTY, all american, church going, girl next door, soccer mom, professional victim, phoenix who has risen from the ashes of divorce" since day one.