When I first fell in love with my husband, I love his three children as much I love him. I truly beleave that I you going to marry a single parent you must be able to loch their children as much as you love their parent. I trully did and still do. I fell in love with them at first site. I been married for 2 years now. I have three step children, they are 10yr stepson (He haves ADHD, from 1st wife), 8yr Stepson (He have autism, from 1st wife), 3yr Step daughter (from ex girlfriend). I always wanted children so I was so happy to have them. Their mothers not in the picture much, but they do see them. Evrything thing seem to go fine until a year ago. My oldest started to get real nasty to me, calling me nasty names, saying lies about me even. I didn't know what to do I told his father he said, "He's at that age." So I let it slide. It getting worse and worse. I'm not the yelling type, I hate yelling, but I seem to have to with that boy. He started to do something that really worried me. When I yelled at him he acted like I was going to hit him and only infron of his dad. I NEVER HIT HIM OR EVER WOULD HIT HIM! I was an abused child from a step parent, I WILL NEVER HIT A CHILD...EVER! My husband told me he's afraid of me. WHY? I never punish him that is his father's place. Eventhought his father never punishes him. That when i found out all the lies that he been saying about me. I was so I shock I couldn't speek. That boy been telling him that I yell and scream at him all the time and call him names. I very OCD comes to losing my cool. I always have to keep count how many times and how long ago it was. I only yelled at him thre times in 6 months. My husband is very protective of his children and that was one of many things I love about him. But Because of that boy, our marrage is falling apart. I love my husband so much. But that little monster... The other children and I love each other to death. They love it that if they ever want to se their moms I will go out of my way so see them whenever they want. I have many times for them even the oldest. But things here are getting so bad because the oldest and I don't get along. We did before I just don't know what happen. My husband even talking about me leaving because of that boy. I never hated a child before and it scares me to even think it, but I feel like I am starting to hate him. His own brother and sister don't even like him. He such a bully to them. If he goes away and never comes back only person would be sad is his father. I want to save my marrage. I don't know what to do.