I'm taking back my space, my sanity and my sympathy!

The estranged SD16 met with DH this week after leaving our house without notice and while watching 3 small children, almost 5 months ago. If you didn't read my post a while back, please let me remind you that she was watching 3 small children at 10PM while DH and I went to my Mom's house because she had passed away unexpectedly the day prior! I used to feel sorry for this kid having a PAS mom and all. Not anymore!

She agreed to meet with DH and at that point I was suspicious! He came home and said she was sorry about the way she left and that she felt stupid. She said that she had been holding back her feelings and they just came to the surface at the wrong time. She also said she wanted to see her siblings. DH came to the conclusion that she agreed to meet because she wanted something. This coming summer she wants to go across country with her boyfriend to his BM's house for 3 weeks. She said her BM said it was OK but she had to ask DH before she could go.

My stand: I said she could see her little siblings and she would be welcome back into my home ONLY AFTER she went to counseling.

I need my own space in this crowded house and I'm taking back some space to set my office back up. In other words her stuff is going back to BM's and her bed is going up for sale.

What a jerk this kid is!

I'm thinking this is a step toward letting go. What do you think?