I am sitting here paying bills and it hit me...All the silly things we do just to irritate the BM's.

I sign the CS checks, med. reimbursement checks and I make sure to address the envelope too just so she can see my name and my handwriting. Goofy huh?

I also put the phone in my name so that when the stepturds call her from here my name pops up on her phone.

I am going with DH to a counseling appointment today. I went to this guy last year and he was very helpful. I only went 3 times. My husband had gone to him with BM before and he really liked him. I insisted that DH go to him when Lazy Turd, the 17 yo. "estranged one", left our house late in the evening without notice and while watching 3 young children. She has not been back since. She left the night after my Mom passed away and I think she is embarrassed to face me. As well she should be. DH has seen her 2 or 3 times since. I'm not in a place of forgiveness at this moment.

I was just changing the photo on my account page and noticed that it is my StepTalk anniversary!

Wow! One whole year. I found this board in desperation and wanting to fix things. I have come a long way in accepting things the way they are. I still get frustrated, but I am glad I have a place to vent with people who understand.

Thank you everyone. I hope you all have a great weekend.

OK, I am really doing well at disengaging this time. SWEAR! However, I just need to vent. Thanks for letting me vent to you all because I'm trying to act cool with DH. You know...fake it 'til you make it kind of a thing. I'm trying not to complain about the little things, but when you are this far gone everything about SK's can drive you up a wall. Especially that gawd awful breathing air thing they do. OYE!

Here's my irritation for the moment. DH is out and a SK just called. Thank God for caller ID, right? I just listened to the message and this is what they said.