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Submitted by wickedstepqueen on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 4:10pm

This is a pure vent and rant.

I hate the fact that my dh has kids with a lying whore. I hate that he lets the little one come over here - even though it is not his. The kid is a whining, crying wuss and even dh says that he is.

I hate his lying whore ex-bitch who is always begging him for money.

I dont feel an ounce of guilt that they are NEVER allowed here for more then a few days a month. And why??? Because I dont want them here!

I will never be okay with them in our lives, so I certainly dont go out of my way to ever make them feel welcome or wanted here. UGH!!!

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licarez's picture

Submitted by licarez on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 4:32pm

:jawdrop: I'm sorry but it makes me sad to hear you say this. I am also a stepmom and even though my stepson is cold, unloving, and at times disrespectful I still manage to find the strength to show him love, and care. I do it because I know how much he means to my husband, I do it because I love my husband, but most important I do it because he is a kid that is greatly poisoned by bitter and unhappy woman, it is not my stepson's fault. Just think about it that way, and even if your step kids don't appreciate you right now, just remember that one day they will grow up and might realize that they had a wonderful step mom who loved and cared for them no matter how they behaved..

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Submitted by twopines on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 4:34pm

>>>I will never be okay with them in our lives, so I certainly dont go out of my way to ever make them feel welcome or wanted here. UGH!!!<<<

Amen sister!

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Submitted by krazykate12 on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 4:36pm

I can kind of relate. I wish my step daughter didn't come over to our house at all. Even my husbands life would be better if she never came over. She spends the whole time she is here crying and saying she wants to go back to her moms house. And I try to make her feel welcomed and loved and she still doesn't want to be here. If her mother were slightly normal my husband would have already given up his rights in order to make his daughter happy. Unfortunately his ex girlfriend is a lying physco who cares more about herself than her daughter so I am stuck having his kid over at my house 2 days a week and every other weekend. I can't wait for her to be old enough to decide that she doesn't want to see us anymore.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 5:44pm

Or they could grow up and be like the majority which hate their SMOM no matter how much SHE sacrificed for them...

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Submitted by sonja on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 6:50pm

Even if I felt as harsh as you do, Im not completely sure I could type it out like that. I know our lives would be better without a skid. FDH is super stressed whenever shes here and the day before she comes.

Ive told him in the past that if I knew that Id never see BS9 months, always be forking over tons of $$ to him for BS, and got to make no decisions, or really have any impact, Id probably give up BS to him.

He wont admit that he would have done the same with SD when he and BM split just a couple months after she was born. I understand that hes her daddy now and there is that bond there, but really just like some of the other skids.. SD has no interest in coming here and if she was old enough to decide she wouldnt come.

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Submitted by dodgegal05 on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 10:33pm

My skids dont even live with us or contact hardly ever, but I can sypmathize with your feelings. Its a reminder of the past, the ex, and that you are never really first in their lives...

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Submitted by princessandthepee on Sat, 10/29/2011 - 2:31am

Ok, Ok. How old are they? No adult can ever feel good about hating a child. We have our reactions, our emotions. But we know what is right. Come on. They sound young. You've shown me something important, that no matter how old they are, no matter how they act, it really does have nothing to do with you (or me). Step kids are the most prickly things in the world, I am constantly recoiling from mine. But I never feel good about it, and neither will you.