DSs Crazy Mediation with Crazy BM!
So my DS’s mediation with crazy pants, was as expected. CRAZY! She finally got a lawyer and came to THIS mediation.
She came wanting a fight. She wanted him to not have any rights and only hours a week of visitation.
This kind of crap went on for 5 hours. It was absurd. But they finally came up with almost a regular normal EOWE schedule anyway. So that was 6 thousand dollars wasted, just to get what DS should have had in the first place.
Anywho…after they got everything all hammered out and were just about to sign…her lawyer came back and said…oh yea…you own her 5000 to 7000 dollars in back CS. TOTAL blackmail move. They all knew the court would not order DS to pay it!! BUUUT her lawyer said pay something or he would just take it to trial. So DS offered 2000 and they took it. All the while, everyone there knew DS would not be ordered to pay. (note…DS would have had to pay an EXTRA 5000 to his lawyer if it went to trial so I look at it like he saved 3000 lol)
My son lived with his DD up until say Aprilish...when he broke up and moved out. BM withheld DGD for 2 months. I mean no contact no matter how hard we all tried. Had to have her summoned to finally see the baby with temp orders. During that 2 months, he sent diaper and wipes and baby food from Amazon every few weeks cause she would not talk to him. Once temp orders happened he started giving her ordered CS.
This woman is going to make his life a living hell. But you play you pay. He was so beat up yesterday it was sad. But he is going to have to get used to the crazy with this one.
PS…love love love that child. She is the cutest, sweetest thing. So much better than your own kids. lol
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Must be hard seeing your kid
Must be hard seeing your kid go through that! For Christmas buy him a lifetime supply of condoms so it doesn't happen again
Fathers
have to spend thousands of dollars just to enforce their court ordered rights. BMs can show up to court wielding a bloody ax and still be given a million chances by "the system."
change that to 'high conflict
change that to 'high conflict parents' please - I'm reasonable and I'm being SCREWED - as the mother.
I would except that
The vast majority of custody and CS is awarded to BMs. I too as a single BM back in the 80's was screwed royally. My ex husbands would dodge CS and got away with it successfully. Then in the 90s the pendulum swung in the other direction. Now fathers are viewed as criminals in the system and the BM's word is golden with rare exception, possibly in your case.
The legal system is flawed
The legal system is flawed the world over. I'm glad it's sorted for you and your son now though I doubt it will be the end of troubles with crazy pants.
There is a very sick part of
There is a very sick part of me that just KNOWS in my heart that SSstb14 will go through all of this one day. He is going to meet and marry someone just like his mother. She will do all the same things to SS as his mother has done to DH. I think then, and only then will SS see and understand what DH has been through.
BM's like the one your son is dealing with and that most of us on here deal with are such sick individuals. It is just disgusting.
This girl is actually worse
This girl is actually worse than SSs BM. And that is pretty bad. I don’t know how many times the girl has said…”as a mother” When trying to get her point across. GAG
She actually has to bring the child on Tuesday nights, to DS. Last night was the first time SHE had to do the driving. She was 30 minutes late.
And the fun begins. But granddaughter was her usual happy, smiling, wobbly walking, self. Her first overnight will be Saturday night. She has never slept without BM. EVER. She slept with BM and DS when they lived together but that was 5 ish months ago.
She is the happiest baby I have ever seen. (Next to my DD…my DS was a hyper horror at that age. Lol) But I think she is going to have a rough time. She just turned 1 year old.