My house, or our house, or skids house
I was upset last night with DH. And right in the middle of our disagreement, I had the realization that I live in “his and SS” house. ugh! I am so mad. I told DH that I did not feel like this is my house, but did not elaborate. Well, now he wants to talk about it, because it bothers him that I don’t feel like this house is mine. (we moved into his house last year, the year before that, we lived in my house)
I am going to tell him…
1). In MY house, kids have to do chores and do them right.
2). In MY house, I don’t have to hide my drinks from kids.
3). In MY house, kids can not eat or drink in their bedrooms.
4). In MY house, I have some privacy.
Now all of this is SUPPOSED to happen in OUR house, but it doesn’t. DH is too much of a puss, to make his kid….
1). Clean correct. My daughter or I ALWAYS have to come behind him because he does it so half ass. DH thinks he does ok. NOT
2). DH and I told SS at least 10 times each to stay out of my diet cokes. We have plenty of other drinks and the DC are mine. He would still drink 2-3 a day. So, now, I have to keep them in my car now.
3). The rule is that no food or drinks are allowed in the bedrooms. He gets caught at least once a week with food and drink in his room. All DH does is tell him to stop. Arrrggg.
4). SS used to go into my bathroom all the time. I put my foot down on that, but I think the little turd is still going in there when I am not home.
This will be my conversation with my DH tonight. Good times! .
Any suggestions?
There is more, but I am sure I will leave some of it out.
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In MY house I am married to a man and not a big wuss daddy. 3
sorry, just in a bad mood today.
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they are old enough, maybe
they are old enough, maybe you guys should have a family meeting and decide on some house rules
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I know PA! We did this when SS moved in. And DH swore that when he got custody, he would not be such a weiner where SS is concerned.
This is just the tip of the iceberg. And I only gripe about this because it concerns me and my kids.
Other thing, like DH not even talking to SS about his bad grades, gets on my nevers too. He acts like he is scared of this little 17 year old skinny kid.
I may have to drink tonight!
I can offer one piece of
I can offer one piece of advice: it's not just WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it. This was always a HUGE problem for me (ok, it still is sometimes lol). I get frustrated and keep things bottled up inside (trying not to be a nag) and then I just explode and go off on DH and SS for everything that I've kept bottled up for so long. The result is never good.
Just recently I was pissed at SS for not vacuuming the basement. After a month of both me and DH reminding him repeatedly, I was fed up. I silently fumed for 2 days trying to decide how to deal with this. I wanted SS18 to know that if he doesn't do what is expected there will be consequences. So I practiced my delivery in the mirror. All.Day.Long. I had to be able to say what I wanted without letting my emotions take over and screeching like a crazy lady. It worked. I was able to communicate very clearly what was asked, what was expected and what the consequence would be. SS finished vacuuming both the basement and living room before he went to bed that night.
Oh, one more thing. Once you and DH agree on the house rules and consequences, post them in plain sight so it's easy to for you to point out when someone forgets.
Hahaha
Hahaha