SD15 Actually Admitted That She Deliberately Disobeyed Me
SD 15 actually admitted that she disobeyed me only after my husband and I fought over her reaction to me telling him. I wanted him to see my hell. He came up with every excuse including that I was f-ing embellishing. When he decided that we should ask her about it, his tone of voice was "You're lying and I'm going to make you eat crow!" Her cocky ass owned up to it. Then of course came the why and the I don't know circle. He said she's moving out this Thursday. The fight was Saturday. By Sunday he was waivering so I called him on it. (This is not the first time my hell was scheduled to end.) I told him he had a pattern and that he was only going to change his mind and to just stop the act. This past week has been worse. He looks at me as if I'm going to say "let her stay so I can get figuratively kicked in the teeth for the 20th time." The closer it gets to freedom, he's looking at me differently as a wife. He even threw out "no wonder she doesn't like you; you're mean to her." Then I told him that I didn't care and didn't like her either. I said she has a selfish, self-entitled, lying, shady, dark soul! He actually didn't argue with me! I was astonished, but then he ruined by saying it was her BM bad genetics. REALLY!?!? WTF!?!? I'm afraid that when she leaves he'll leave me too. We have 3yr old daughter and 8 yr old son. When my little girl wouldn't get out of the tub, he threatened to turn on the jets. I called him out on that too! "Look, even the baby has consequences, you ARE capable!" SO frustrated and worried for our future.
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You really haven't given me
You really haven't given me any reason as to why you love your DH so much. He sounds like an ass.
No wonder SD acts like that
No wonder SD acts like that she learened it from your DH. When your DH gets his panties out of a wod (sp)he'll get over it. Not only has DH been manipulating you for years, but you've been giving in to him everytime he claims hes going to do something about SD. DH has learened that by him saying mean things to you and basically having a fit you will give in. And then he wants to turn around and say is BM bad genetics. LOL. If he wants to leave let him. Before you kids ended you like SD and DH. Who are selfish and manipulate people to get what they want. Who wants their children to be like that. Stay Strong. I don't believe for a minute he'll go anywhere.
I am sorry that you have to
I am sorry that you have to deal with an awful acting SD and an immature husband with misplaced loyalties. That said, I know you love him, but if he won't side with you as a united front with your SD, you may be better off with him leaving and sparing you more arguments and disrespect. All that drama isn't good for your little ones either. If you believe in God, I would pray for His will to be done, and ask for wisdom and mental clarity for you. Maybe you can find the right words to reach your husband, or maybe God can remove your stepdaughter.
My SS almost broke up our marriage and refused to visit for over two years until my husband divorced me. My husband and I are still together, and we had over two years without the drama prince causing trouble. Sometimes the best thing someone can do for you is leave you alone.
She's been gone for 7 wks.
She's been gone for 7 wks. I've been in "Cloud 9"! I HAVE prayed! The past few weeks have been (I thought) amazing! There has only been 1 big fight, and it was because he got me confused in a 10 yr old memory about taking his daughter to a baseball game with his cousin!see baby's dad. Really?!?!? Now he says be misses her, and she's coming fora week! He also says he hasn't noticed that we haven't been fighting! He says that he has thought that, "Damn! She's gone back to her mom's and things aren't better!." He can't see that I've almost completely cut my drinking in half. He can't see that he's finishing his projects now. He still smokes weed at midnight. My shrink asks me why I'm staying with him!?!? I really don't know why I love him! I know the kids have been doing great with us not arguing! He says we still argue,but he can't give me examples! I think he's going to have to pick between us... He's just too delusional!