My step daughter was 8 years old when I met her. She was a very shy and sweet girl at the time. She had a very manipulative mother that spoke poorly of my husband to her children all the time. I believe his daughter began believing the lies about her father even though we do no know what they were. My husband loves his children dearly to the point that I feel he places them above me. We have been close to divorce numerous times and basically all to do with his daughter and the lies. I have been understanding and even paid his child support when he didn't have the money to pay. Now a history of his ex wife. His ex wife left the children in the custody of their father while she ran off and had an affair with the preacher of their church. When that was over, she wanted her children back. He gave them back to her. She did not provide for her children and the often spoke of no food in the house or no heat. At one time CPS was called into her home but to no avail. I encouraged him to seek custody but he refused for some reason. My step daughter had mental issues growing up. Her pediatrician even encouraged psychiatric help but her mother and father both did not follow through with his recommendations. My step daughter has developed a passive aggressive personality and would manipulate her dad to do things all the time while she and her brother were growing up. She would have her mom drive her to school by our house 30 mile to and 30 miles from instead of staying with us. Her mother drove for 2 years until she was old enough to drive then she drove 60 miles a day instead of staying with us. She only came to our house to get a Christmas present or go on vacation with us otherwise we never saw her. Her brother would stay with us all the time. Her not coming to see us continues to this date. She only visits for a Christmas present or when she can get something. And my husband has made excuses for years for her and has placed her above all of us. She is the perfect daughter to him and he is very defensive of her. My step daughter is now twenty three years old. She is a liar and manipulator. The latest lie had to do with her wedding. She was married and did not tell her dad so he did not go. In fact, no one on his side of the family knew. But I was suspicious because I found a blog stating she was married. I told him and he was furious with me. Instead, she had a fake wedding 7 months later so her dad thought this was the actual marriage. All so she could get money from us. The truth came out 3 years later when her baby was born on the fake anniversary and the beans were spilled when asked do they celebrate her real wedding date or the fake wedding date. My husband had the nerve to say he really knew. I told him then he was lying to me. I really don't believe he knew until that day but as usual he makes excuses for her and covers for her lies. I really love him but this is so old. What am I to do? I love my husband but his daughter is affecting our marriage still to this date and I'm sick of it. And now to add to everything is a poor innocent baby. I made a commitment to God and do not want to divorce. Advice is welcome.