So hello out there to all of you. This is my first blog on steptalk, I've been a longtime lurker but hadn't gotten around to starting anything on here until now. So I figured I'd start off by introducing myself and my family to yall.

I'm 25, due to be married in less than two weeks to a wonderful man, I'll be refining to him as DH. He has two daughters from a previous marriage. They are 4 and 5 and pretty good kids. We have been living together for going on two years now and he and I have been raising them together. BM just kinda peaced out after the divorce (story for another day). Overall I think we are doing well but going through major adjustments still.

Abut SDs... the oldest is a total princes type, always singing about castles or some bullshit about unicorns and the fae. She's a handful in her own way, but very artsy and creative. We butt heads a bit but nothing I didn't expect. The younger one is the tomboy. She's polar oposite of her sister, all about paw patrol and cars. She's a little spitfire bad ass who would probably beat the crap out of boys that break her sister's heart in high school. Little girl is so much like me and her dad personlaity wise it's insane. Obviously she and I do the Texas stand off every once in a while. But their awesome and I lovery them both like they're my own.

Background on the BM/custody crap, BM is a piece of work. Left DH to run off with a man the same age as her parents. Both BM and her new DH are military, living 4+ hours away from us. We have the kids for the majority of the year. She pays child support and visits when she feels like it. Fine by me, she barely takes her visitation time so rarely do I deal with or see her anymore.

This custody situation is one of the reasons I'm starting to blog. We just came out of a dogfight custody battle. BM didn't really realize how life would play out. She wanted to get full custody for the school year, a completely unfeasible arrangement with her line of work. She ended up caving before mediation and boom we are primary household. That's the nutshell, don't worry I'll eventually spill the beans, be patient with me. Anyway we are in transition for this change, and I know having a safe space to vent and take care of my needs is important. This seems like a great co m munity to do that in and I'd like to be part of it. Looking forward to getting to know others and get/give advice!!