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BM from HELL!!!

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Submitted by young_step_mom on Sun, 11/14/2010 - 9:37pm

BM and DH were never married. They separated before he and I even met. Regardless of all this, I feel as if she still blames me for them not being together. She is constantly telling SS3 that I am awful. SS once asked DH (when I was not around) if I really was "evil." BM refused to hand SS over to DH once when he went to pick him up because I was in the car. BM dragged SS back in the house kicking and screaming. I recently took SS out alone in the hope that we could have a little bonding time. TERRIBLE MISTAKE! We ran into BM and she took SS from me and told me I was not allowed to be around her son. SS was in tears, yelling that he didn't want to leave. BM did not seem to care that her son was distraught and DRAGGED him away from me. When DH went to her house later that night to pick up SS, she told him I was not to ever interact with her child again. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!! I try to put myself in BM's shoes and I realize that this must be a very difficult situation for her but this is just RIDICULOUS! What does she really expect me to do, leave when SS comes to MY house for the weekend???? Tell DH to hire a sitter when he needs to run out of the house and can't take SS with him???? And how can she not see what this is doing to her child? She would rather let SS cry his eyes out than be around me. It is not his fault he is in this situation! I really don't know what to do at this point. I am trying to bond with this little boy but she is making it impossible. I don't even know if there is a solution but I am just glad to vent, so thanks for reading Smile

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Submitted by NewBeginning on Sun, 11/14/2010 - 9:42pm

This bitch needs to grow the hell up! You say this is your DH? And she acts like this? Wow!

I'm sorry you have to deal with her worthless hind end. Sounds like a jealous lunatic that is very controlling. I'd have DH have a LONG talk with her. Maybe even see if you could get custody..just imagine what that poor child has to live with in that house with her!

What an asshole!

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Submitted by NavyStepmom on Sun, 11/14/2010 - 9:57pm

}:) HOLY!!! I have a BM just like that!! This BM and my guy were divorced for over 4 years before I ever met him and you'd think I was hiding under the covers when she came home every night. We went to an open house at school last year for my SS and she slammed doors on me, and when a teacher asked who I was said "nobody important". She prances herself in my house and stands in the foyer with her nasty looks, she tells my two SS that I'm the reason they aren't together, if it wasn't for me they'd be a family, she even told the youngest SS that if he is mean to me and treats me bad, I'll either get mad and just leave or I'll be mean to him and his dad will get rid of me! This women treats my SS who is 10 like he's 5, she had him drinking from a sippie cup till last year, she holds his hand and walks him into 5th grade the one morning she has him, she lets him sit on her lap in public, and I'm so bad. We have custody of them and they live with us and visit her, but we are the bad one's.... she's crazy. At any event we all attend, if someone, a teacher, coach, other parent talks to me she butts right in and says "she's not their mom, I am". I am so sick of her. I feel for you!!!! }:)

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Submitted by majka on Mon, 11/15/2010 - 10:03am

Wow... so sorry. I am sure that this is the way that my BM would be if she lived around us... BUT luckly there is like 6 states seperating us, and she doesnt have my number HAHA!

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Submitted by beezgirl on Sun, 11/14/2010 - 10:15pm

It is really pathetic that these "woman" are that insecure that they don't realize it is a GOOD thing to have another caring person in their childs life. I would feel so much better knowing my kid would be living part time with people that really do love them. I wonder if they would rather us ignore their children or treat them badly? They will never have the DH's and BF's back (I hope that the men are smarter than that) so what is the deal??? I honestly do think that it has soooo much more to do with the DH than the child, definatly these bitches can't move on.

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Submitted by alwaysme on Sun, 11/14/2010 - 10:41pm

You and DH can not give in to her wishes. She is just a pathetic selfish bitch who is behaving like a spoilt brat. She has lost control of your DH and her only way of gaining back that control is through SS. DH needs to tell her its tough titties when it comes to you. She needs to learn to just deal with it, just dont cave, stay strong.

Our BM was the same, you know what worked best was absolutely no response from me or DH, we carried on through life as if she didnt exist. On the odd times she called to abuse me i just laughed at her. When the kids come with messages via BM i laugh at them. Everything she "requested" i do, i did the complete opposite. The fact that it must have been driving her insane to have absolutely no say in our house or our life was revenge enough for me, and it was revenge via the high road.

Take up yoga and ignore the Grunter, she will get the hint, she will have no power over you whatsoever. Have a little laugh to yourself when you know she will be pissed off cos you have not done as you are told... }:)