So fall quarter will be over in 9 days and then I am off to visit DH for the holidays!!!! I am soo excited!! It's our first wedding anniversary PLUS Christmas PLUS I haven't seen him in a month!! So...I have decided that I really want to try and bond w SS3 while he is still young so that HOPEFULLY I won't have as many problems with him when he gets older *fingers crossed*

DH usually has SS on weekends, but I told him that since SS will be out of school, he should ask BM to let us keep SS for a week (which according to our mediator we can do). DH says it will "complicate things" and he would rather pick him up for a few hours after work...WTF???? This completely throws me off and I think, well maybe he thinks I don't realize that I will probably have to be alone w SS while he is at work so I tell him that I want to spend time w SS ALONE so that we can have a relationship of our own and I wont always be "daddy's wife." He still says no. Side note -last time I was alone w SS we ran into BM and she snatched him away from me on the street. She's a dream, I know. So I ask if he is worried that BM will get angry. He says no. I honestly have NO idea what is going on here. Finally we agree that he will ask BM is he can keep SS until Tuesday.

I told DH that maybe he should tell BM that I will be alone w SS. First of all, she is now dating someone so I am hoping this has toned down her crazy. Secondly, last time when she took him from me she told DH that I had tried to run away from her and if I had just let her say hello to her son she would have had no problem. I am thinking that DH should tell her that I will be watching SS while he is at work and let her know that he wants to keep her in the loop so there is no repeat of last time (it's a pretty small town so unless I wanted to NOT leave the house, word would get back to her that I was alone w SS). BUT this puts us at risk that she will say no. Do we tell her??

On a different note and a bit off topic, SS and DH were in the car last Sunday and when they passed a random house SS pointed and said mommy lives there w her BF. DH asked if SS lived there too and he said no. WTF???? DH doesn't know if it is true and he doesn't want to talk to BM about it because she is always at her mom's house when he picks up or drops off SS (this is where she is living -allegedly) and he thinks SS is probably confused although I have NO idea why he would say that his mother has a new house. I don't really know what to tell him because if he tells the mediator she may say that DH should have custody of SS but with his work schedule (8AM to 8PM) he will NOT be able to take care of him PLUS I am trying to bond w SS but I DON'T want him full time. So what do we do about that??? It's not like SS isn't being taken care of (I'm sure his grandparents are taking care of him) but according to the mediation agreement SS is in BM's custody, not her mother's.