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worried about what will happen to him if i leave :-(

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Submitted by youngstepmumtobe on Sat, 06/02/2012 - 3:51pm

Things have been building up over the past few weeks and I know I can't stay. I don't wish to go into the reasons but just know that I can't.

But I'm really worried about what'll happen to him if I leave. At the moment we share a flat so bills are shared. If I leave, the only bill that will decrease for him is food but after rent he'll only have £200 a month to pay for everything else! And in September he'll only have £440 a month to pay for everything including rent! I dont want him to be in this situation, I do still have feelings for him but at the same time I know I can't stay Cray 2

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Submitted by MJL2010 on Sat, 06/02/2012 - 4:02pm

Looks like he'll need to find an extra source of income. Sometimes a man has to be a man and figure out how to support himself.

I am sorry that you need to leave and that you're going through this but it's great that you know yourself that well, and that you've made this decisive step ahead in your life. You sound like a caring person. Best wishes!

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Submitted by boogeymom on Sat, 06/02/2012 - 4:06pm

Boy, that's really hard. I know exactly how you feel, I probably should've left a long time ago, too. We have a house and paying mortgage/fees to sell the house is pricey, we share bills, we've put time and money into improvements, etc., and every time I seriously think about leaving, all that comes into my mind is how hard it would be on both of us finacially. So here I stay. He's not abusive or anything like that, and that's what makes it hard to leave, because I feel like I don't have good enough reason. I still have feelings for him, too, but I'm also very sick and tired of him, his family, everything. It's definitely not easy, I commiserate.

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Submitted by MJL2010 on Sat, 06/02/2012 - 4:15pm

Boogeymom, I LOVE your signature quote. I need to mentally tuck that away for the day one of the skids says those words to me!!!

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Sat, 06/02/2012 - 5:57pm

He'll do one of 3 things.

1. Move in with his parents or a friend.

2.Find another woman to support him.

3. Find a job (or a 2nd one) and supprt himself.

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Submitted by cant win for losin on Sat, 06/02/2012 - 6:33pm

i will be honest, i would be pretty hurt n ticked if i knew someone i was with was "plannin" on leavin for a long time before finally leavin. breaking up is never easy to do, and whole it seems awfully nice of you to be thinking of him like this, delaying the inevitable isnt helping him. waiting might actually end up putting him more in a financial bind.

cut loose now. be up front and honest.