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Oh just burning my tree right now? Why do you ask OSD?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Fri, 12/26/2014 - 7:23am

OSD who I do not talk to and does not like me, sent me a FB message on Xmas Eve "When are you taking your tree down?"

In my head I am thinking "I'm burning my tree now, why do you ask?" LOL. Okay not really. But I am ASSUMING she is asking because she wants to use our house to do Xmas with her step kids.

OSD lives out of town, 8+ hours. I guess they are coming today. Staying with BM. OSD has 2 small SDs. My only guess as to why she is asking if we will have our tree up is that she is trying to do some sort of Xmas with them at our house.

I can say almost 100% it has nothing to go with gifts for anyone in our household. I cant imagine any other reason why she would ask about our tree? Any guesses?

I did not respond back. I didnt even open the message.

Assuming this is why she is asking- first of all- I have a child in the home. Is she really going to bring gifts for her SDs to open and then have my son sit there and watch? Now I know BS has to learn that sometimes others get stuff and other times he doesn't. But we have NEVER met these kids. So it's like having strangers in your house to open gifts? :? (BS is actually with his dad for a few days, but OSD does not know this)

Not to mention that I have ZERO relationship with MSD and she has only ever been over to our house 2-3 times, total time maybe 1 hour. Ummm yeah. Not sure why you think my house is the place for you to do your own thing but it is not. Sorry, not sorry. Boundaries much?

Also my BS still has his presents under the tree. He leaves and goes with his dad on Xmas afternoon, so we always leave all of his presents under the tree until he returns. He has sutff opened, half built lego sets in the living room, small pieces laying around, etc. The living room is no place to have guests in right now.

I havent said anything to DH about it. I am acutally leaving to go out of town this morning. DH KNOWS how I feel about having the skids over when I am not here. I dont trust them and cant trust DH to keep an eye on things. But I am going to mention to him that the living room is obviously not fit for guests to be over. He already said he wasnt going to have her over while I am gone, so I am just going to mention it to him again.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Fri, 12/26/2014 - 8:58am

I'm really just making an assumption.

Not sure why she isnt going to use BM's. Maybe she didnt put one up? Or planned on taking it down earlier?

My sister said, maybe she is worried about her kids (the 1 yr old) messing with the tree? Which that would be stupid to ask someone to take their tree down for that reason.

Not sure if she asked DH. But she knows I run the house and that anything to do with the tree is up to me.

OSD and I do not talk at all. She hardly talks to DH. To ask about our tree is the most random question ever. I can only assume she is asking because it has something to do with her. I cant think of any other reasons why she wants to know about our tree? LOL Im open to guesses though.

***even though she rarely talks to us, doesnt mean that she knows her boundaries when it comes to my home btw.

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Fri, 12/26/2014 - 11:03am

Are any of them allergic to trees? I used to have a cat that was allergic - as soon as the tree went up she started sneezing. My own allergies get a little worse when the tree is up. Just a thought...

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 12/29/2014 - 7:40am

I really wanted to because I am nosey. But I knew she wanted to use it for something, whatever it was- presents, pictures, etc. Since I was out of town, I didnt want to deal with it or let her know I was out of town. Plus if I said no, I would be the bad guy. Didnt want to deal with that.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 12/29/2014 - 7:38am

I never did respond to her message. She did meet up with DH when she came into town. DH met them at a McDs with a kids play place. So he did honor my wishes and not have them over. Which it's never them that I really care about coming over. I just dont want MSD to come over since she steals.

I saw on FB she took some family pics in front of a Xmas tree, so I am guessing that is what she wanted to use the tree for? Still really weird to ask considering she doesnt even like me. I hate you, but can I use your house for my family photo shoot? WTH.

Knowing OSD, she already saw DH so she wont see him for the rest of her trip while she is here. I guess she is here until NYD. Whine and cry how she never sees her dad but then comes to town and sees him all of 1 hour.