What to do??

Well here we go again...

We are to pick up my SD9 on December 26th and she is to be with us until January 2. Well once again BM is taking her out of town for Christmas (which is fine) but again we have no idea when exactly we are to pick her up or what time..now keep in mind we live 1 1/2 hours away and we are having a full house for Christmas right up until New Years...

So my husband asked BM what time and of course she has no idea and her answer is "I will let you know when I know" so my husband said to her I do not want to get a call telling me that there is a snow storm or the car broke down..ect..ect.. and I do not get to see my daughter again for Christmas.. So BM said to him we are taking the train and I have to be back on the 26th because I have school on the 27th (BM is on government assistance and is order to maintain that had to take a course)..so again he said great what time can I pick her up...BM says well I dont know what time I'm coming back so I will let you know when I know.. they leave tomorrow to go out of town and we still haven't heard a word as to when and what time...

I am so damn frustrated..how the heck do we plan for this??? and to top it all off my SD broke her foot about six weeks and of course BM booked the appointment at the hospital to get her cast off on the 29th..so again we have to drive 1 1/2 hours to get the cast of and then 1 1/2 hours back to our house... I'm ready to freaking scream.....what is wrong with this women..

The court agreement states we are to pick her up on the 26th..so what do I do if she's a no show???

Z :sick:

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The CO doesn't state a time?

The CO doesn't state a time? If she's a noshow, file contempt charges on her ass.

She knows what time she is

:jawdrop: She knows what time she is returning. She just wants to have him jumping at the drop of a hat. Or is looking for a good excuse so he cant get her.

File contempt charges against her if she is a no show.

I agree with RaeRae here this

I agree with RaeRae here this stuff is really simple. Simply tell her the CO says this time and if you are not there to court we will go. do it enough times and she will stop that crap!

Update..he just spoke to her

Update..he just spoke to her and she still doesn't know when they are returning..so he told BM I thought you were leaving tomorrow and she said well I'm not sure when we are leaving, I will let you know when I know...
So again we are back to her playing her lousy games..I'm so fed up..I mean come on it's Christmas...

I agree..we will have to call the authorities but really in the court order it doesn't state a time..just the date..so everyone now what???? help..............

Tell her she can have the kid

Tell her she can have the kid after she gives you an email or written statement on what time to pick the kid up.

I agee, no release of

I agee, no release of custody...that makes perfect sense. Hold her accountable to the legal document.

Thanks everyone, but the

Thanks everyone, but the problem is my SD lives with her BM..so I cant keep her as she is with her BM right now...

Hopefully everything will be fine...

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year....
Z

Zoie....Before you take the

Zoie....Before you take the advise given to refuse to release the child to her mother, I urge you to talk to an attorney. Refusing to give that child to her mother as ordered by the court could easily place your DH in contempt.

Here's a bad scenario....You refuse to give her the child. And she files a motion for contempt. Or worse, she calls the police, calls her attorney, and tries to claim parental kidnapping.

Not a situation you want to be in. Follow your court order. If she doesn't bring the child back, then you contact your attorney. I wouldn't refuse to give her the child based simply on what she might do.

And if the court order doesn't specify a time, she's not going be held in contempt.

Thanks mom2five... I would

Thanks mom2five...

I would never refuse to give her to her mom..that would make my SD so sad to be in the middle of this mess...so for her sake I would never do that..

So I hope all goes well and we pick her up on the 26th or the 27th....

thanks... Z

We deal with that holiday

We deal with that holiday mess every year...from both my ex and my DH's ex. It's always stressful. But it always works out.

Hopefully, her mother is just trying to make a point. *sigh. I hope it doesn't screw up your holiday plans.

It's unfortunate that this

It's unfortunate that this has to happen and yes I agree it's very stressful. But in the end it is what it is and we will make the best of it..

Thanks for the advice...much appreciated..

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