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Submitted by susiebeth on Mon, 08/03/2009 - 6:44pm

Every Sunday my family gets together and we have dinner and play games. This weekend was my turn so we cooked out and the kids played soccer and horse shoes. Out of the blue my fiance's daughter announced she hates my dog. He's a 4 year old black chow and loves kids. When I brought him home as a puppy my niece took one look at him and said he looks like a teddy bear. So the name stuck and he has been my teddy bear. It really hurt when she said she hates my Bear. That was all she said the whole day. I talked to my fiance about this and he said he would think about taking her to see a doctor but I don't know if that's enough. Now I worry that she may do something to my precious baby.

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Submitted by Abigail on Tue, 08/04/2009 - 12:58pm

She's probably not going to hurt him. Most likely she wants to hurt your feelings.

SD16 hated my cooking, my house, well, everything about me. Interesting, because I know I am a very good cook. I saw BM's ugly little house and had to chuckle that SD didn't like my house which is much nicer. I am much more attractive than BM as well but not to SD who felt free to express anything she didn't like. My conclusion, she didn't like it that DH and I were married and thus she didn't like anything about me. It's not personal.

Having said that, it's hard not to take things personally. I am really not that sensitive so I just told DH that he should cook when she comes over. One less thing for me to do anyway. And when she came in the house and said, "I don't like your painting" I said, well, good thing it's not your painting but your Dad and I really love it. Why don't I get you some paint and see if you can paint something better. And smiled very sweetly at her.

If she said she didn't like the dog, I would just say, "That's okay, all the other kids really love him so you just don't have to play with him. But please don't keep repeathing that as I heard it the first time." If she sees that it doesn't bother you, it may take the fun out of it for her. SD16 stopped after that.

As for sucking up to the child to make her like you, that may work. It depends on if she has loyalty issues with her mother --which SD did. BM made it clear that liking me was treason to her so I gave up the losing battle. Once DH told her that I was his wife and he didn't want to have to choose between her and I and she had been hurting his feelings, she got a lot beter.

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

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Submitted by missangie1978 on Tue, 08/04/2009 - 1:34pm

but got over it. Most likely she's jealous of attention the dog gets. She'll get over it but until then just watch her and make sure she doesn't do anything to the dog.

When our pup Dozer was 12 weeks old we were outside getting ready to go to the 4th of July fireworks and SS had those popper things you throw on the floor and they pop well I told him not to do it around the pup because it would scare him. I turned around for a second and when I turned back he was throwing them straight on the ground next to the puppy. I told DH to handle it and DH told me that SS didn't mean to. I straight up asked SS and told him lying would get him into BIG trouble, well guess what he did do it on purpose and he missed the fireworks show because of it.

DH was pissed because he thought I was being to hard on SS but I'm telling you now that everytime SS did something to the dogs that is unexceptable he gets punished serverly so now he is a complete angel around them. He knows he'll lose out on everything if he does anything to one of my pups.