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Submitted by momgoingnuts on Mon, 08/17/2009 - 2:00pm

court today was awful the judge let her move with the kids we have skids till 930 tonight then they leave for the other state we will not see them till christmas vacation. what we did get was this, we get 1 wk after school lets out they will come here bm will have a 2 wk vacation with the girls during our parenting time in the summer then skids will come back to our home until 7 days before school starts, she has to provide all transportation for everything which is nice but once again she gets her way she gets to move its what she wanted...
If anyone out there is or anytime in the future dealing with this problem good luck unless u have partial custody you cant stop em. if you dont have any custody only visitation start working on getting at least joint legal.
now me and DH are just stressed ( i cried most the time in court) and snapping on each other i wish the court system better understood kids need their fathers too mom is not the only one that matters. ugh stress stress and more stress....

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Sia's picture

Submitted by Sia on Mon, 08/17/2009 - 2:08pm

My Dh went through this. We only saw the kids in the summer. It was hard. I'm so sorry!

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Submitted by mother goose on Mon, 08/17/2009 - 2:32pm

soo sorry to hear this! That really is a drag.

my thoughts are with you and your family.

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Submitted by luckykell on Mon, 08/17/2009 - 6:07pm

My BF and I are facing this situation sadly, and as much as it hurts to hear this, hopefully it'll help from making it a total shock when it does happen. BM currently has Sole custody (she screwed over BF when they divorced majorly!) well for the last year they have both said they wanted to change to Joint Legal and Physical custody...that was until BM met her new boyfriend a few months ago. He lives in Arkansas (we are in Oklahoma)....no suddenly she doesn't want to change to joint custody, she wants to keep sole. She won't come out and say that's what this is about, but this is the only thing that has changed. She won't sit down and talk to us, so now we have to turn to the courts for help. Thank you for sharing, i'm sorry you guys are going through this, just remember you're not alone!

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Submitted by caya506 on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 9:14am

and thanks to the genius guardian ad litem the BM got to move. BM wanted to move to AZ with her fiance, whom she met only 5 months ago on facebook! As soon as my brother heard about this he immediately filed papers to stop her from leaving. A guardian ad litem was assigned to them and she went to both their houses and talked to each one of them to determine what was best for his daughter. She told my bro before the hearing that she was recommending that BM not be able to leave the state with her as it would not be in the best interest of the child. The court date rolls around and the guardian does a complete 180, changes her mind and says she can leave with her, take her away from any and all family that she has ever known, and why did she change her mind? Because the guardian says she had a chance to check on information that BM gave her and found that they had already found an apartment and a new daycare for my niece, WHAT? does that have anything to do with the best interest of the child, I don't think so. Not to mention that the BM lied about numerous other facts, which she was callled out on by the judge. The family court system is a joke and the people working for them just baffle me!