First, thanks for all your awesome replies from my last blog about DH flipping out and demanding more love for my SS, despite all I have been doing watching him after school and our crazy schedules. You are all right: I AM SOOOOO EXHAUSTED!!!

So, the other day, SS9 calls DH and says "I need a partner for karate class tonight and I want you to do it."

And DH says,"Well DH I can definitely take you to karate, but I can't really be your partner b/c I will have to bring BS1" (Remember, at a 7pm karate class, I am in BED b/c I have to be at work at 3 a.m.).

So SS9 is just heartbroken and sobbing. And so I, in yet another attempt to be super stepmom, tell my husband,"Honey just go. This means a lot to him. I can go on a couple hours of sleep. Maybe I can get a nap later" (Yeah right)

Well they come skipping in the door after karate. And SS9 tells me,"I decided I didn't want Dad to be my partner and I just did it by myself like usual."

Small potatoes, right?? WRONG!! This was the straw that broke the camel's back. This kid is always backing out of everything after people rearrange their schedules and he gets away with it. And whenever he gets in trouble he just calls BM or NANNA! and gets to run away from whoever is mad at him. Well, LAURAHELTON331 had had ENOUGH!!!!!!!!!!! And normally I don't go off at him. I pull DH aside and explain any issues I am having and expect him to deal with it, and he is usually pretty good about it.

So, I say to SS9: "EXCUSE ME???? You didn't use your dad as your partner after YOU KNOW I have to be up at 2 a.m. and DH got off work early for YOU??? After you CRIED for him to be your partner??? SS9, you are ridiculous. You use everybody, and no one holds you accountable for your actions. You back out of everything, and I am sick of it. I will not be taken advantage of ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" He looks like someone punched him in the stomach. He's never seen this side of me.

So then I stomp off to the bedroom to get on StepTalk and I am about to post something and SS9 walks in and very fakely tells me "I'm sorry,"

And I said,"SS9, I have heard this too many times. You have me,DH, BM, and NANNA! running around for you like little slaves. It's disgusting. You are the most spoiled rotten child I Have ever met. I refuse to watch you be raised like this anymore, and some things are going to CHANGE. And I am tired of your fake apologies and watching you manipulate where you sleep at night based on who is being the "funnest" or the "nicest" to you that day. Don't waste your fake apology on me. I'm not stupid." Again, SS looks shocked. Punched in the stomach.

Sooooooo as you all know, I watch him after school. Well he goes home and tells BM he doesn't want to stay with me after school anymore. And the most glorious thing of all things happened: BM said," OH HELL NO!!!! You just don't want to be over at your Dad's and Laura's b/c they actually hold you accountable and make you do things. I don't won't to hear one more word about it!!!!!!!!!!!"

Finally.

And DH is backing me up on all this too. He has noticed how I have really made an effort to be a good stepmom to him, and still got emotionally backhanded by that kid.

That little effer. I want to wring his neck and all of this happened several days ago. The kid is slowly coming to the point where he has no conscience. Why would you have one?? Imagine if whenever you got in trouble growing up, you were one call away from Disneyland (NANNA!) to come save you? After awhile, you wouldn't care when daddy or mommy got mad at you. You would just get on the phone and make new plans and not have to deal with the person who was mad at you. The even bigger problem is that BM and DH have ALLOWED this to happen. The COMMUNICATIONS BETWEEN THESE 3 PEOPLE IS RUINING A CHILD AND RUINING MY MARRIAGE.

No more. I will do the best I can from my end. I will continue to watch him after school and hold him so accountable for actions it won't be funny. I had always tried to "Hold back" and let BM and DH handle things for the past 5 years b/c SS9 "wasn't mine." Well THEY SUCK AT LIFE, so now they are going to mess with me. Trust that this will not be easy. I am becoming much more proactive since DH and I had our son (BS1) together b/c I don't want this b.s. around my son, and it's getting nipped in the bud now while my son is too young to be f'ed up from watching the mess.

It will be interesting to see how things unfold from here...I realize it would seem that I have very little control over what happens....but I think you will all be surprised....