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SD19 using me as excuse

prayerhelps's picture

not to visit DH here at home. Evidently, she feels some vibe w/me. WHAT??? Last time she was here, on NY's eve, I spent the whole evening playing games w/her, DH and nephew after my little ones went to bed.

After talking to therapist/friend, I had DH take "Five Love Languages" to SD and ask her to read the 5 love languages and let us know which one she is (I have everyone else pegged in my family, but her). Now she won't even read it. I guess I cannot meet her needs.

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Totalybogus's picture

Why try. If she doesn't want to visit your home then your DH can go visit her. This way you don't have to deal with her drama.

stepoff's picture

BINGO! Exactly what happened with us and SD. Life is so serene now and DH can visit her whenever and wherever he likes, just not here. Drama-free for me.

stepoff's picture

Good for you for 'busting' them on their rudeness. Maybe now they'll keep their opinions to themselves.

prayerhelps's picture

SD knows DH tells me everthing. Always have (together over 8 yrs). I have been in SD life since she was 10, and DH had primary custody, so it is not like I am just the EOWE SM--I helped raise the child, and during difficult teen years.

Thanks for advice about not expecting relationship. I don't anymore--I was advised early on to let the SKids determine the type of relationship we have, and so I have. I just don't like being the excuse. Fortunatley, Dh told her that to---that is her excuse, has nothing to do with me

soverysad's picture

That "vibe" she feels is likely the bug up her ass.

"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!