My BF BM has not gotten re-married but if she did and did not take her new hubbys last name I wouldnt like it. She still has his last name and I dont like it but they have two kids together so I know she is keeping it so that she has the same last name as the kids. I live in Cali and by law we can not make BM change her name. The only way we can do this is if he and I got married then he could ask the court to make her. What are the laws in your state? Maybe you can ask the courts to make her.

My DH ex still has her name after re-marrying. I didn't change mine. No F---- way. I have my late husbands name hyphenated with my maiden name. I am not adding a third to the mix. She said she wanted to have the same name as her kids. No problem. You can have it. Don't let this bother you. I would just use your old name.

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My FH's ex-wife recently remarried but I'm not sure what name she's using. I think she's taking his name but maybe added on to FH's name since she kept FH's name to match SS10's. Honestly, I've never liked her keeping the name. I'm divorced and I dropped my ex's name like a hot potato. But that had more to do with the fact that we were so young when we married and divorced, and it was overall a bad relationship. I never liked the name with mine, never felt right, so I reverted to my maiden name (had it restored in the divorce decree). My daughter however has my ex-husband's last name so for the longest time, we've always had different last names. Doesn't bother me, I've never had any issues with pre-school or regular school. She knows I'm her mom and my name is what it is. Doesn't bother her either. When I remarry, I plan on taking FH's last name but DD11 will keep her father's name. I think she sees it as who she is and I don't think my ex would approve of tacking on FH's name either. I wish BM would drop FH's name and just use her new husband's name in conjunction with the long list of names she goes by, First Middle Maiden New Hubby. I suspect it's First Middle Maiden FH's Name Hubby's Name which is ridiculous!

I knew someone who kept her ex's last name, and it certainly wasn't because she wanted him back, it was because she had it so long that that is what people in the professional world knew her as. It takes alot to change your last name. Although I too would be ticked if bm had kept dh's last name, I would know that he is no longer hers.

Ok I totally understand hating sharing the last time but as a BM I SERIOUSLY hate having a different last name than perfectson. Matter of fact I think if something ever happened (not that it would, but IF) and I wound up divorced I would probably take back EH's last name so perfectson and I would have the same name.

I mentioned once before that I had my EXs last name until I remarried. I would've gone back to my maiden name right after the divorce, but he made a huge fuss about it in court...referring to me by my maiden name and DEMANDING that I stop using HIS name. The judge ordered him to call me by my married LEGAL name, and I said that I would keep his damn name until I died, even if I remarried six times! I didn't, LOL, but I sure meant it when I said it.

He was SUCH a jerk.

Wingnut will never remarry and she will never change her name from Mrs xdh. I guess since she was Mrs. xdh for longer than she was Miss Maiden Name, I kind of get it. It doesn't really bother me. I know that I am the real Mrs. DH. I guess it would bug me if someone thought we were related. EW!!! But there isn't much danger in that since our paths never cross despite the fact that we live 2 miles apart.

"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!

Girl, I feel you! Wilda is still using BF's last name DESPITE the fact that the divorce agreement legally changed it back to her maiden name. I get wanting to have the same last name as your kid but if you had it written into the agreement, then honor it! UGH - it makes me mad!!

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

Question, when you keep your ex-husband's name, are you "MRS." XH or MS. XH? When BM identifies herself, she doesn't precede it with a salutation. Just wondered what the etiquette is.

Well my aunt uses her old married last name still to this day, she kept using it because it was easier for her to keep the same last name as her daughter. When she got married she hyphenated her old last name with her new married name and now that my cousin is 25 she still keeps it because that legally is her name.

A name is just a name, no big deal. There are most likely millions of other people with your last name, even some who have your exact name. Don't press the issue, you're still the wife no matter what. You only have to worry if she is doing something fraudulent with it and involving your Husband.

I definitely don't want my Ex back by any means, but I still have his last name. I don't want to have a different name than the kids, and even if I were to get remarried, I would hyphenate. I know I probably shouldn't feel this way, but changing my last name to anything different than theirs feels like I'm leaving them behind. I don't even associate my last name to my Ex's now that we are divorced. {shivers}

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Not to piss in anyone's Wheaties on this but the XW/BM does have children with your DH. When my XW and I divorced she was getting pretty bitchy in court about changing back to her maiden name. The Judge asked if there was a possible pregnancy and she made some snarky comment and bitched at the Judge about wanting her name back. He jacked her up and told her that if she did not zip her lip he would have her in for an amnio to prove that she was not pregnanct and if she was pregnant she would never get her name back.

I stepped in at that point and assured the Judge that the only way she was pregnant by me is if it was the second immaculate conception.

He winked at me and told her to stand there and shut up until the hearing was done unless he or I asked her a direct question.

My point is, if there had been any children in our marriage the Judge would not have granted her request to revert to her maiden name.

Using your DH's last name may not be her choice or she may want to keep the same name as her children.

Thank God I did not successfully spawn with that adulterous crazy wench.

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My BM kept my DH's last name but she hasn't remarried. I'm sure it has a lot to do with the kids having the same last name and that she has used it professionally. With that being said, it does suck when I get mistaken for her, yuck!

Also, my mom and dad divorced when I was very young and my mom kept my dad's last name. Still has it, 25 years later and us kids are grown up married etc. And she wants ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with him!!!

After I remarried I waited about 4/5 months before changing my name. Where I live, we have to change it with Social Security before we change it with the DMV, otherwise the system won't match. I waited until I had enough time in a week to make both trips (it takes 48hrs for systems to match).

I know it's annoying; our BM still has the same last name and my only peeve is when she gets something in the mail that says MRS and she goes on and on about how it's not MRS b/c DH left her and that made her a MS. Other than that, I don't sweat it too much; she put up with his crap so I guess she deserves to have whatever name she wants...

I hate it, I hate it sooo much. She asked DH during the divorce. At the time DH was so hurt he just didn't care, and she said since her career was established with his name she wanted to keep it. I'm trained in the same profession as her, though, she is like 16 years my senior. I'm thinking about getting a lisence plate that says REALMRS or something there abouts

Our BM called herself Mrs. XXX for a few years. She told BF she had an emergency with the kids one day and needed me to call her. She just wanted me to hear her VM....this is 'Mrs XXX' in a snotty voice.

And that was 2 years after the divorce.