Why do I have to walk on EGGSHELL'S because HE'S in a bad mood??
DH is having a rough time at work. He is the VP of a large manufacturing company, and he does his job well. He works very hard and I have a tremendous amount of respect for him for that. The trouble is, he's been in a foul mood for the past couple of days. And he's taking it out on me. We work at the same place. Granted, I am not nearly as high up on the food chain as he is, but I put up with the same crap from the same people, and yet I still manage to keep my cool with him. I understand why he's angry, he has ligitimate issues to be angry about. But I don't think that gives him the right to be a JERK to me.
He came to my office today at to have lunch with me, as he does every day, but he ate his lunch in complete silence. The only time he opened his mouth was to answer questions I was asking him, and even that was short and snappy. SS25 STILL doesn't have a job, any leads on a job, or even any thought about actually getting on his ass and looking for a job. It has been over a month since we had our talk with him about growing up and getting off his ass and taking care of himself. So I POLITELY brought it up, since he was being shitty anyway and I didn't have anything to lose. And he totally snapped at me AGAIN and told me he was not going to discuss it right now.
So if it's not a good time to discuss it when he's in a good mood, and it's not a good time to discuss it when he's in a bad mood, when exactly is a good time to discuss it?
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well frankly bringing up the
well frankly bringing up the subject of the SS during lunch was a HORRIBLE idea.
Steperg... it's not her
Steperg... it's not her place to do those things, it's her DH's place. I am so thankful you're not my son's SM.
Personally if my son was
Personally if my son was sitting at his BD house and wouldn't get a job (which is MUCH more likely than him sitting here and not getting a job, because I wouldn't put up with it) I would be more than fine with his SM cutting off the power when she leaves to "encourage" him to get out and get a job. It's not abuse, at 25 the kid unless they are in school still should be supporting themselves. My sister is 24 this year and my SD is starting to get a bit frayed because she won't get off her ass and get a decent job (she works 2 or 3 days a week as a check-out chick) - it's not that she can't it's that she's too bone lazy to do it. I'm so with him!!
My mum is frustrated but unable to do anything because she feels guilty that my little sis isn't getting out there and thriving like me and my other sister. By her age I'd bought my own house and had my son and had just separated from BD, my other sister at the same age had her own house and is planning her wedding to her partner.
Poisonapple, I'm new to the
Poisonapple, I'm new to the site but definitely relate to your issue. I have SS21 with zero friends who has a permanent indention of his behind on our family room sofa and is hard pressed to carry a dirty dish into the kitchen let alone put it in the dish washer! I have found that often I have to bite my tongue when it comes to pushing SS to do anything. My DH lives by the "I can kick my dog but no one else can" philosophy.
Is your your marriage worth
Is your your marriage worth fighting over somebody who is not going to change?
Your husband is admittedly going through work issues,and instead of having a partner who is supportive and empathetic,he has you. You are going to drive a wedge between you and your husband,and then when he has had enough,you are going to be wondering why. If he supports his son being a bump on a log,then so be it,all bitching is going to do,especially at inappropriate times,is make him resent you. Resentment in men builds up,like it does for us,but whereas we can forget all the times we were bitchy,unreasonable,and controlling,they don't forget,and it builds up,and then one day,bam! He is asking for a divorce,sleeping around,or just disconnected until he can get up enough gumption to leave.Let it go,it seems as though everything else is good,why kick a man when he is down? Maybe if you didn't bring it up,he would get a chance to see for himself,and he wouldn't have to feel defensive about his son. You don't have to walk on eggshells,but you should respect the fact that he is already stressed,and let the man breathe,eat his lunch in peace. You said you spoke out since you "had nothing to lose",but you do,you could lose your marriage and the regard of your husband if you keep up your current stance. Stop poking the tiger,he is going to give you a reaction that you are not going to like. Maybe he is taking it out on you,because you are making it hard for him to turn to you for support and comfort. It's Friday, why not plan something nice for him that he enjoys,and surprise him with something nice. Maybe get him tipsy and take advantage of him. Stop being part of the problem and be part of the solution. Not for him,but so that you can have a peaceful life and a happy marriage.
Winning the battle,but losing the war, is not a win.
The future depends on what we do in the present. - Mahatma Gandhi
Of course you would. Ya damn
Of course you would. Ya damn fruit loop.
You want to drop the kid out in the middle of the wilderness with nothing but a pocket knife and a compass! If that. And if he would find his way to civilization, you'd want to put his butt to work at Micky D's! Way to go there, Mother of the Year. You get the gold star for Fucktard of the Day today.
I think empatheticE had some very valid, well thought out points.
You however, did not. So hush and keep your terrible advice to yourself.
Of course you would. Ya damn
Of course you would. Ya damn fruit loop.
-----> ROLMFAO so freakin' hard my stomach is hurting!!!!
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Holy shit Jbee you are my
Holy shit Jbee you are my new hero!! hahahahahahahahahaha!!
Well, I guess someone had to finally say it huh? You go girl!
JBee..... I just love
JBee..... I just love you!!!!
ROTFLMAO!!!! Sometimes the truth is just so.... TRUE!
Well, how many times is this
Well, how many times is this "woman" going to give bad advice to other posters????
Treat/train your husband/SO like a DOG? WTF?!?!
Alienate your Skids because you hate them. Yeah, cause that's REALLY going to help your marriage. Your spouse will just LOVE you when you drive their children away.
Nit pick and antagonize your mentally ill SD whom OBVIOUSLY needs HELP not some equally "F'd" up person berating them....SMDH.
The negativity just flows from this one.
I totally agree with you.
I totally agree with you. And it's not that we are all just being hateful or mean. It's because it's true. This person needs serious help. And truth be told, from all of us SM and BM's here, if OUR kids had a SM like that wouldn't you make sure she's never around the kid? I can tell you with no doubt this crazy woman would never be allowed around my kids. Hell would freeze over first.
I know! The hate and
I know! The hate and bitterness oozes out of every word she writes... it's sick, sick, sick!
I think the dog thing was my
I think the dog thing was my fault. There really was a feature on Good Morning America talking about "training men like dogs". They were focused on how men respond well to praise. I added that I apply that (Red is a totally different person when I'm telling him how proud I am compared to nagging him to death) and made a joke with it. I fear that I fueled that.
"I have always loved the time before dawn because there is no one around to remind me who I am suppose to be, so it is easier to remember who I am." - unknown
If you were taking something
If you were taking something from an article or a news story, that is one thing. This woman was actually proud and boasting that she was training her husband like a damn dog!
That just isn't right. Using his ego against him or some crap like that.
Like it was stated before, this isn't an "attack", this is an actual "WTF is wrong with you?". Cause quite frankly, this woman is off.
Oh I wasn't trying to imply
Oh I wasn't trying to imply that it was an attack. I just didn't want her to get the blame if it was my fault. I was pretty active on that blog and tried to explain to her the difference but well sometimes you just can't argue with crazy.
"I have always loved the time before dawn because there is no one around to remind me who I am suppose to be, so it is easier to remember who I am." - unknown
No! Like I said, you can't
No! Like I said, you can't get blamed for sharing something you heard or read. That would be like everybody blaming you for teaching all the SD's about sex for posting the link to the Girl Scout's guide to sex that was posted earlier today. You didn't do a damn thing but share a link.
All you did was share a story. You fueled nothing.
She apparently ran with it.
*cheering* "There are two
*cheering*
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
WTH? She never said anything
WTH?
She never said anything about putting him in the middle of the wilderness... and if a job at Micky D's is the only job the kid can get then DAMNED STRAIGHT the kid should be working there!! HE'S 25 for goodness sake, he's an adult and should be pulling his own weight!!
It was a metaphor for how
It was a metaphor for how she reacted to the situation.
And I never said that kids that are of age shouldn't work and pull their weight. I think kids that are of age should have jobs and make their own way. I take it you didn't read any of the other comments that were made before you went and responded to this blog.
Do your homework before you post dear. Mmkay? Thanks.
I think they should all have
I think they should all have to work at mickey d's F/T if they think they deserve to eat there everyday.
Starting at age 7... JK
Oh mai! But I do agree. I
Oh mai! But I do agree. I think that when a child is old enough to work, that should be a strongly suggested option. I was in extra curricular activities and held down a part time job when I was in high school. It wasn't hard.
They shouldn't be forced into anything, but they should be taught, you need to "make your own way".