I totally understand your frustration here, and I would be mad too, but I think this should just be ignored.

If he says anything to her about this being inappropriate, then she will know that she pushed YOUR buttons and will continue doing it.

I don't know her or your situation, but her message just sounds friendly to me. As much as I can't stand my ex, I don't wish ill on him and would probably tell him to be safe and have a good time on his vacation too.

Let it go. It's not worth a big fight and that's probably what it would turn into if you called your DH and lost it.

Deep breath, deep breath. Tonight, put a jigger of bourbon in your coke - that always helps me.

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Honestly Rojo? It would upset me too but it is an overreaction. I'm sure she does it to needle you and it works. It sucks b/c I deal with it to and I know it's only done to bother me and by my getting upset by it, she gets what she wants but that doesn't mean I can let it roll off of me easily.

I don't have any advice for how to let it roll off of you... hang in there & remember that she's insignificant to you and your relationship. Don't let her get in the middle of that - if you do, she wins

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

I think you are overreacting. Our BM totally ignores me, as well (unless she needs a favor, of course). Does the SK have a cell phone? If not, then this is just her communicating with the kid. I agree with StepAside -- including DH is probably just a reminder to him to make sure SD puts on sunblock.

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You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

This type of msg from BM I could handle. She didn't address you DH directly or inappropriately. Just wishing them to have a good time. Let this one go and put that energy into something else.

She's doing that to be a butt. Don't let her get to you. We all know there was no reason for BM to include DH on that email. Some BM's do ignorant crap like this just to get a raise out of the SM.

Wingnut does this on vm sometimes, Rojo. Honestly, it makes me laugh. She is so pathetic. I know it is hard and frustrating, but try to view BM's behavior as her own insecurities and have fun with it. Think about how truly pathetic she must be to hang on to her ex. As long as your dh loves you and doesn't respond in kind, she is wasting her time and energy trying to piss you off. How stupid is she? Don't let it work.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

agree with all of the above:)

Why dont BM's just F OFF and talk to their own BF's or Husbands....I find them so irritating and waste of spaces - the fact she has sent him an email is innapropriate....no need is there. I cannot stand most BM's only a handful are NORMAL..

She is just trying to get to you so if he responds then she knows she got to you. IF you just ignore it then she will probably keep doing it but if you just try (i know it is really hard to do) to ignore it maybe she will get the hint. Don't let her get to you. Easier said then done, right?

Our BM has done this before. And added "Call me if you need anything." Puke. I think that may have been the straw that broke the camel's back. I believe this is when I requested that they lessen the frequency of their email exchanges.

I sent many emails to EH just like this, especially when perfectson was younger. I sure didn't mean anything by it, other than have fun and PLEASE remember to put sunblock on my kid. I don't think it's inappropriate at all and I sure wouldn't let it ruin my good time.

She is just jealous that you are going on Spring Break and she is not. She is trying to make you miserable about what she wrote. Misery loves company. So be HAPPY

I see both sides...don't stress...the most is sit w/dh and tell him to reply saying...

Thanks BM! We will...and don't worry Rojo has packed our bags and she has already put in all kinds of sun protection for us all!

Listen, if she hadn't said all of those terrible, nasty things about you in front of your stepkid, I doubt this would bother you nearly as much as it does. It's all about context in these relationships.

BM sent virtually the same text to DH before we took the kids to his parents house this past summer (with the added zinger of "I spoke to your parents and they are REALLY excited to see you and the kids!") I think it is her way to try to maintain control, somehow.

I think it's right to be annoyed, but I don't think you should make too big a deal of it. Save the big guns for major issues, like when she calls you names...