I-Touch/I-phone + 8 yr old = NO f'in way!
So my SS8 has been asking DH and I for an Iphone since DH first got his (yr ago), then I got one 6 mos later. DH lets them play on his and they know not to touch mine. So for Xmas, both boys asked for one. One I dont think kids need cell phones until they start driving. Esp this young, who are they going to call?
So then they started on the Itouch, he sounds like a commericial, he tells you all the features, price and that its not a phone so there is no contract or cost per month. Yup, you can keep saying all that b/c you are not getting one!! I've told him no and so has DH.
Well my bro and his wife are seperated and it's nasty. SIL bought an Itouch for my FOUR yr old nefew but it was so she could hack my bro's phone!! So now SS8 is like well (my nefew) has one. I said well that was something his parents decided on, you're not getting one! SS8 & SS5 will have these conversations in front of us so they know we hear but are not directly talking to us about it and SS8 will talk about it and say well we'll see if I get one.
It makes me want to scream for two reasons: one is waaaaayy to young and immature for something that expensive and doesnt need the internet at his touch, plus its NOT going to BM's and two I'm tired of them thinking we have money and HAVE to buy him everything!!
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I completely agree with
I completely agree with you!! My nieces all have one and they were 9,10, and 12 when they did. crazy
My boys did not get a cell phone until 13 and that was pay as you go until they could show they were responsible.
My son bought his own itouch when he turned 14 but hacked it for free apps so did not cost monthly...lol
We talked about the go as
We talked about the go as you pay one for when he hits his teenage yrs. But thats it. They have MP3 players and all they want it for is the games and nope, not having that linked to our account and him DL all these apps. Your son needs to hack mine then...lol! DH and I share an Itunes acct so whatever we each DL, the other can DL for free.
Whenever Creature starts
Whenever Creature starts with "I need, I want, you should buy me" (which is rare since she has learned that it isn't going to happen), I respond with "Ask your mother". Hell, we pay $900 a month in CS and she is here all the damn time, I am not forking out more money to keep her entertained with crap she doesn't need. She has plenty of stuff here and her mother buys her whatever she wants, so I just push it right back over there.
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.
We have the same issue. It
We have the same issue. It drives me absolutely insane when SS just picks up my iPhone and uses it, so I hide it so that he has to ask me (because god forbid i make it a rule that he has to ask me).
Wait a Second...:O "because
Wait a Second...:O:O
"because god forbid i make it a rule that he has to ask me"
So, if you were to tell him that from now on he HAS to ask permission to play with YOUR phone, it would be a problem?
Wow, the things I read from steptalk will never, ever seize to AMAZE me!
I want to see the child (mine or not) that will touch my phone after I had said "no without permission" without any consequence!!!!8-)
Sincerely,
G
"I will die on my feet before I live on my knees"
My son is 7, he'll be 8 in
My son is 7, he'll be 8 in July. He has an I-touch. he got it for christmas. You can put parental controls on the internet for it and you can even disable the wi-fi feature.
Sometimes, when a kid is a good kid and works really hard in school and at chores...there is nothing wrong with buying them the thing they want for a big holiday or birthday milestone. besides, when he starts slacking off at his chores or school...taking away the i-touch is a huge bargaining chip.
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We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. ~Anaïs Nin
Does one of you want to
Does one of you want to adopt me? Just wondering...
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Yea pull out couch is fine!
Yea pull out couch is fine! And well.... I still have problems with that... I dunno..... I might need you to help me.... LOL
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I agree, my son (10) has an
I agree, my son (10) has an Itouch too. Just bought it last Christmas for him. He LOVES it. Now instead of carrying around a bunch of gadgets, he has one that can do it all.
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"Most couples have not had hundreds of arguments, they've had the same argument hundreds of times."
And I agree. But we have a
And I agree. But we have a BIG problem with him and video games right now which is probably the MAIN reason I'm so against the Itouch, not to mention, he has broken his DS, DSi and MP3. He isnt careful with anything!! For this kid and our situation and Iphone and Itouch just are not happening!! He has enough other video games systems and an MP3 player. And if its not for the Internet at that point, then I see no point.
I'm not saying this applies to all households or children. But IMO, I think he's too young and it gets a NOISY kid way too much access to things. He already snoops on my DH phone as is.
I'm so against the Itouch,
I'm so against the Itouch, not to mention, he has broken his DS, DSi and MP3
--------> Certainly! I understand that. My daughter, 8, had a DS, she broke it by accident, which could have been prevented had she been handling it carefully. I will not purchase her another one, nor anymore game systems. She has to be a little more responsible with her things first.
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"Most couples have not had hundreds of arguments, they've had the same argument hundreds of times."
Choochoo knows his little
Choochoo knows his little ass would be done if he ever broke his electronics.
He cherishes them like they're made of solid gold or something. It's funny to watch how careful he is with them.
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We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. ~Anaïs Nin
My son is that same way!
My son is that same way! *sigh* How did I get two kids who are complete opposites!! LOL
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"Most couples have not had hundreds of arguments, they've had the same argument hundreds of times."
I totally agree BBB...my
I totally agree BBB...my grown children had nice things but they worked hard, were respectful, delightful kids and did excellent in school so I feel they deserved them. My younger son and BF daughter on the other hand don't deserve half the things they get....its a vicious circle...overly indulged Princess gets everything and anything...my son feels bad cause she gets everything and he gets very little...then I feel bad and I get my son something just because I don't feel its fair to him to see this kid get everything and him get nothing even though he doesn't deserve it.
GRRRRR!!! Just reading that
GRRRRR!!! Just reading that made me mad all over again! My SS11 is JUST LIKE THAT!!! The kid has a phone...but he wants a new one everytime something new comes out! He doesn't NEED a phone but of course BM got him one. Then he told me that one just would not do and he wanted one like mine. Mine is a Eny3...nothing special....so I looked at them and they are $350 without a contract and I sure as hell wasn't doing that for him! That would be why he has not been to our house in over a month.....for Christmas I got a laptop and he informed me that he would be asking for one of those next Christmas. I told him he better be putting that bug in BM ear because he wouldn't be getting it from me or DH!!! I REFUSE to take him to the mall...it's I need this and I need that. Not WANT ...... NEED! And then when asked what it is he needs so badly....he won't answer....just looks at me like I am from another planet! That kid makes me want to spit and cuss!!!
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As long as PsychoSponge
As long as PsychoSponge (thats SVS!) is footing the bill for SS11 phone...that's cool with me. SS11 wants an I-pad as well! I am not buying things for him to take back to his house. DH bought him a new bike and he threw a fit when DH would not let him take it home. Things that are that expensive and that he "needs" to have all the time she will just have to buy for him. He has been on the entitlement road for QUITE some time. I am trying to put up a road block!!! HAHA
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So glad Creature is too
So glad Creature is too young to want any of this stuff. Plus, her mother is computer illiterate so she doesn't see mommy with a bunch of gadgets. If and when she starts demanding expensive toys (her mother's alimony will run out when she is 9), she'll all ready know that we don't just buy things because someone "wants" them.
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.
Edit to this...I MEANT to
Edit to this...I MEANT to say THANKS SVS!!!!
My fingers got ahead of themselves!!!
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That's DH's point of view.
That's DH's point of view. But mine is different, I think that a phone (inexpensive one) is convenient at around the age of 12, when kids start going out with friends, or perhaps if they have other activies.
Sincerely,
G
"I will die on my feet before I live on my knees"
My son has an emergency
My son has an emergency situation prepaid phone. I've learned that when he's with his father, he gets put into questionable situations. It has my name, address,and all phone numbers in case of an emergency. He has it on him anytime he's scheduled to be with his father.
Sometimes, when you share custody of the most precious thing in the world with the biggest jerk in the world...you have to do what you have to do in order to have peace of mind.
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We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. ~Anaïs Nin
And I dont disagree in
And I dont disagree in situations like this. At one point, we considered a prepaid where it had DH, me and BM that he could call only. BM's phone kept getting cut off and DH couldnt talk to his kids so we were going to get him a prepaid for that purpose. But I'm talking about just having it b/c he WANTS it.
*snort* yeah...the day I get
*snort* yeah...the day I get a 7yr old kid a cell just cuz they wanted one is the day I hope to get run over by a train.
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We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. ~Anaïs Nin
LOL...EXACTLY!! But SS8
LOL...EXACTLY!! But SS8 said "oh well you guys have money and can afford it". I dont know where he saw the money tree b/c I sure havent been able to find it!
That child is really lucky
That child is really lucky he isn't mine. he would have had my handprint across his face for a week for saying shit like that.
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We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. ~Anaïs Nin
Haha - me too. IF I have
Haha - me too. IF I have money it is because I work for it and will be spending it in a way I see fit, not how an 8 y.o. thinks it should be spent!
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.
I had to walk away b/c I was
I had to walk away b/c I was ticked. In went on to say that we should eat out that night b/c we again have money and he didnt want home cooked food that night. We do treat them to dinner almost every other time we have them and we treat it as a family time event. I'm like yeah that shit isnt happening for awhile. I'm gonna make spagetti EVERY night we have them...lol
Yet another thing that makes
Yet another thing that makes me want to choke SS11 until he turns blue! He ALWAYS thinks when he comes over that we should be going out to eat for every meal! He always wants to do Mexican and the kicker is ...... the little shit doesn't even eat Mexican food!!! He orders CHICKEN FINGERS!!!! But he doesn't like to go anywhere but Mexican restaurants....like they don't serve crap ass chicken fingers EVERYWHERE! AND he thinks that breakfast should always be McDonald's. He likes sausage and gravy biscuits....doesn't matter that me, DH or SS8 might want to go elsewhere...he will ONLY eat McDs biscuits and gravy!!!! I put an end to that REAL quick.....I fix breakfast....if you like it great and if you don't starve! As far as eating Mexican....I don't always object but that's only because of the Jumbo Texas margaritas!! HAHA
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I actually learned a lot
I actually learned a lot from this site. One of my personal idols is TheWife. "NOT. HAPPENING." That was my motto last weekend. I did engage, and maybe it was wrong of me, but I was able to control costs for my household. BF went mini-Disney (because I pulled out the NOTHAPPENING stamp of disapproval on most of his plans), got their hair cut, bought them cheap toys and some sweets during our outing. I controlled the rest by handling grocery shopping, transportation, a stop at a café after our trip to a museum. Every time one or both kids hinted at wanting to buy something "a souvenir/nice/pretty/shiny" etc., I chimed in with "Do you have money?" or "Where is your allowance? You can spend your allowance as you please." When they thought they would be getting ice cream at the café, I said NO, you both have treats. We will drink something, then head home to cook dinner.
I could almost hear the fizzing sound of air behind eyeballs at the point of popping out the sockets, but that's just the way it has to be. bm got SD a cheap prepaid cell for Easter. Told SD she could ask Dad to reload her credits. Guess who'll be getting a taste of my stamp next...
Yep..BF daughter loses
Yep..BF daughter loses everything or tears it up and blames everyone else. She has a phone (she wants an i-phone too, THANK GOODNESS WE ARE NOT ON ATT), Wii, psp, ps2, TV&dvd with satellite in her room, so many little toys that there is no room in the closet, Computer, stereo, all new stuff (decorations and bedspread) in her room......kicker is she won't spend time in her room (she sleeps with her grandmother), she uses our laptop, she watches TV in our room or laying all over someone in the living room which irritates me to no end, and loses her games (or the chargers)and constantly complains of being bored.
Iphone
My partner bought his daughter a new iphone, after she broke the last one after about a year and a half. Now she’s 11 and a half. She and BM cried to him it just stopped turning on...BS. I suggested he let her wait a few weeks or a month to cultivate appreciation. He got her a new one, same day. Her mom was supposed to buy a case, she bought her the cheapest flimsiest case possible. After one month, the screen is cracked. Enough said.