Hi Everyone, This is my first time on this forum as I was stressed out at work thinking about my family situation I began searching and came across this site and reading some of the comments was refreshing to know I am not alone and this is a place to vent.

OK, so here goes: I married my husband almost 9 yrs ago with a son from a previous marriage(10yrs). son was 4 yrs old at the time. Now, fast forward 11yrs, he is now 15yrs old and out of control. There were warning signs that this behavior would progress. He came to live with us full time at the age of 12 when the biomom opted not to have anything to do with him. She decided to pay her child support and be done after several yrs in court and thousands of dollards later she was deemed not fit to make decisions for him.

For several years now, discipline has been a serious issue between my husband and I. When punishment is stated, my husband opts not to enforce it. ie- no TV and then I come home and they are sitting in the family room watching TV, I remind them of the punishment and they say "o".
Then it repeats itself. The thing that I can not tolerate is the disrespect from my husband, he backs me on NOTHING. When SS has done something that he was not suppose to do, my husband first has to get his side of the story and THEN come to me with what he said. My husband's response in the latest situation was "I wasn't here so I don't know who said what".
Really? The situation escalated to my husband yelling at me because SS did not complete the chores as assigned, when I questioned SS, he told me "why did I not do them". Are you serious? In my house, where I pay bills!!!! To me, disrespect is not tolerated on any level.

My husband feels like he should be "his friend" instead of being a parent with set rules of the house that should be followed. Because this has been going on for over 8yrs now, I am really at the end of the road and want out. It is sad because a few years ago, I realized this would always be a problem and was trying to focus on our relationship and suck it up for another 3 yrs but at this point I can't do it.

I have tried to talk to my husband when things are not heated and honestly put my feelings on the table and he tells me that he doesn't see the problem. The problem is me and I am being too hard on him(by making him keep his room clean and cleaning up after himself) that is too hard for a 15yr old. So when a situation of this nature occurrs, my husband turns on me so it is no longer about what the SS did, but what I did/did not do. HELP!