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Submitted by logiebug13 on Mon, 08/02/2010 - 8:52am

She went from worshipping her mother to being afraid of her. BM has put her on a pedastle her entire 8 years of life and has created a level of insecurity in SD8 that im not sure the poor kid can come back from. SD8 was SO excited to get her hair cut Friday night and it came out so beautiful and she loves it! Couldnt wait to tell her BM and in turn her BM told her that if she had anymore than 2 inches cut off she would "freak" and be really "mad". Who the eff does this to their kid? She didnt get a mowhawk, nor is her hair blue! So SD8 let it go (so i thought) and was happy all weekend until this morning when she asked me whos house she would be at tonight. When she was told BM house she started crying her eyes out because she is afraid her mom will be mad about her hair! I feel so bad for her but their isnt much i can do either.

Also, her mom is throwing a Bday party for her this weekend. Our family was invited .. but due to the esclated court issues right now i decided that I and my son would stay home - came up with something that SD8 would understand so it wouldnt hurt her feelings. DH was still to go. But we then found out that BM invited DH's mother and brother, and SIL and then emailed him and said he was not welcome. SD8 told him this weekend she was mad he wasnt going that "mommy told me that he didnt want to be there". DH was stuck between a rock and a hard place - he either took it and let her be mad at him or throw BM under the bus and tell her the truth. Well he decided he was tired of taking the high road and sticking up for her mother and being the a$$hole for it and told SD8 the truth, that he was told he was not welcome. SD8 is pissed and very upset. I cant wait till her therapy starts she really needs a sounding board with someone that will take charge.

But of course we need the court order to get the therapy since BM doesnt want her child "mentally dissected" .. i personally think it is because she is afraid of what will happen if the truth comes out about her.

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Submitted by zuzieq611 on Mon, 08/02/2010 - 9:27am

I have gotten the same thing from my skids bm. It dosen't matter the haircut, or the outfit, she'll hate it. It just makes the kids suffer...and it is sad for the kids. Why would a parent damage their own child this way???

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Submitted by logiebug13 on Mon, 08/02/2010 - 9:33am

it is amazing. this woman has NO relationship with her own mother... so it seems she tries to over mother SD and be her best friend and try to drive her against everyone else in her life to prevent SD from having the same lack of relationship with her but it is back firing and doing exactly what she is desperately trying to avoid.

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 08/02/2010 - 10:02am

Good for your DH for telling his daughter the truth. Facts are not good or bad they are just facts. The fact is that BM told your DH that he was not welcome. If BM sent that via text or e-mail your DH should show his daughter the proof so that when BM tries to lie her way out of it when your SD mentions it there is no wiggle room.

We have maintained comprehensive files of all of the SpermIdiots and SpermClans toothless moron crap. We have recordings of every phone call they have made to our home (in TX it is legal to record your own personal telephone conversations without telling the other party they are being recorded). We have comprehensive journals that include every conversation, telephone call, etc with SS or the SpermClan. We have copies of all of the court documents, BioDad's arrest record, marriage and divorce with his 16yo XW that he only married for three months to keep from going to prison during our initial custody/visitation/support hearing, the public information on all three of his Custody/Visitation/Support cases for his four out of wedlock spawn with three different women. Private investigator reports, court recordings of all of our hearings, etc ..........

When my SS brings up some BS that the SpermClan feeds him we take him to the office, open the drawer and show him the facts and the truth. He has no respect for any of the adults.

It is a sad situation but having the facts and knowing the truth lets him form his own opinions of his SpermClan.

IMHO of course.

Best regards.

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Mon, 08/02/2010 - 10:54am

Why do hair cuts always cause so much drama? We took SS for a hair cut once and he loved it....right up until BM said that she didn't like it....then SS hated it. Whatever...this is a women that puts SS's hair in a mohawk for school pictures.

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Submitted by logiebug13 on Mon, 08/02/2010 - 1:17pm

EVERYTHING causes drama in our house.. right down to who brushes the SD8's teeth! we feel she is old enough to do it herself with some guideance and inspection and crazy BM feels that we should do it for her, as well as wash her hair, physically clean her with a wash cloth in the "tubby" as BM still refers to it! WAKE UP CRAZY BIOBITCH! your daughter is 8!!!

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Submitted by logiebug13 on Mon, 08/02/2010 - 3:51pm

its amazing how she overly and obssessively babies my SD8. We have ahd reports of her still sleeping in moms bed regularly too.

BUt we get no where when we try to call her out on it. ONce SD8 came over for her time with us and refused to sleep in her own bed, when we put our foot down and told her she had to she started bawling her eyes out saying taht she never has to sleep in her own bed at moms she sleeps with her every night. (this was about 2 years ago) so my DH called BM and called her out on it. Of course she denied it on speaker phone and SD heard it and said "yes i do mommy" and BM replied "no honey, you dont sleep in mommys bed, you fall asleep there and i bring you to your room after, but when i wake up in the morning i come get you while you are sleeping and put you back in my bed"

WHO IS SHE TRYING TO KID?????? Clearly she is trying to convince herself more than anyone else.

So we had another episode with this last night. an overly tired SD8 didnt want to sleep in her own room because she doesnt at her moms.

Had to put our foots down and tell her that is not how it goes, she is 8. We asked her how many of her 8 year old friends from school did she think slept in their moms beds. Told her we understood it wasnt her fault for her feelings but she knew she had to sleep in her own room and we offered to stay with her until she fell asleep.

UNREAL!