Hi All, it's been a really long time but I really need to vent to those who understand my point of view. So DH and I had SD4 for the past year, and she went to her BM on weekends. I also had her all summer( I was off since I am a teacher) by myself. By the way, I have no kids of my own. Anyway, it was recently told to us by BM that she was taking her back and she was going to school where she lives (an hour a way), ETC. Now I think she just wants money which of course he will give her. So basically we have full time and pay for everything and she has her full time and we still pay for everything. By the way, did I mention that she has no stable job, home, income and has been arrested twice for domestic violence. Yeah and he is going to let this happen. Whatever, if he doesn't care then why should I right? So today, the most recent thing to piss me off, I ask him when he is taking her back because I have plans tomorrow. Which I told him about 3 days ago. His response is that he can't get a hold of her mom so I am going to have to cancel my plans to take care of her. He works on the weekends a nd late hours the days of the week. So once again it is me taking care of a kid that is not mine. His response is that when I married him she became my responsibility. I'm sorry, both parents are still in the picture but it is MY responsibilty to take care of her???? WTH??!!! Just because I am your wife doesn't give me any rights or responsibilties..I looked into it. Unless BM signs her rights away, I owe nothing but yet I do EVERYTHING. Then, I asked him what is going to happen once school starts. He says well we are getting her on the weekends. Ummmm...he works on the weekends so WE aren't getting her, I am! He then says, we are not talking about this right now. Any ideas out there? I am at a loss.