I'll take Parenting Issues and Marital Issues for $500, Alex.

Almost exclusively parenting issues. I may complain about SD and I truely don't like the young lady she is becoming but that is all due to her parenting. She underneith has all the potention to become a very charming and sucessful individual.

I believe that if the parenting were to improve from both BM and DH that my issues with her specifically would be minimal and our life might be enjoyable even.

Same here - Parenting and Marital Issues as well...

I don't think mine fits any of those, the kids aren't bad or poorly behaved, BM isn't too bad either. It's me, I have a problem being able to feel comfortable with them around. I have to force myself to interact with them. Truth is I don't feel anything for them, don't miss them when they're gone, don't look forward to them coming over. So that would be an issue with bonding?? I don't know exactly how to put it in words.

hennypen~~ i was looking for the words to describe what you feel.... parenting is part of the problem... and mil interference is another.. but to be honest, i have ZERO interest in skids.... i don't miss them when they're gone and a i dread there visits like the plague. thank god i'm not alone, we'll be getting bashed by our community tree huggers together!

SK issues and Parenting Issues over here.

Marital and Parenting issues.
Marital - feels like it's a threesome with a medddling, controling, bitchy BM - which also touches the parenting issue, since BM manipulates my DH using his kids and he regularly caves, which makes me lose respect for him.
Parenting - double standards my DH imposes btw my kids and his (maybe that's marital) and of course hateful, ungrateful, entitled, spoiled skids who can do no wrong and get whatever they want when they want it (they are 14, 16, 19, no toddlers). My DH and I fight A LOT about that.

Yeah I don't think that any of these issues are unique. I think that the only thing that I don't have is insecurity about his past and BM. She is a mean saggy old hag who no man wants.

1, 2 & 3.

BP issues - BM is simply LAME and I have no respect for her as a woman or as a mother.

SK Issues - Because of the way he was "raised" before and after the divorce, SS is selfish, self centered, spoiled, has little manners or consideration for anyone else. DH thinks if we keep on doing what we're doing i.e.instilling values, correcting manners etc that he'll outgrow it but I just don't know. Given what I've seen of BM, his personality it similar to hers.

Parenting Issues - The other household - BM & her new hubby and the trainwreck skids of her own. BM and hubby let the kids do whatever they want, 24/7 entertainment, treats and gifts for NO reason, gross sense of entitlement over there. With every EOWE visit that SS has over there,he comes back with a ton of useless crap PLUS the expectation that we will continue the spoiling.

Sad to say, but all the above.
BM just divorced her third husband and bought a house in my neighborhood that she can’t afford. I know some will say that her financial issues are none of my business. I agree…until she calls my DH wanting extra money to pay her bills which translates into the money coming out of our joint account.
SS12 and SS10 are just plain bad. They have no respect for anyone or anything. SS12/SS 10 are never punished for any reason by both parents.
CS is a big one for me. He pays a lot in CS but she always needs more ‘for the kids’. We have a mutual friend that says she brags about being able to do the nice things and my DH will always foot the bill.
The other big one is he always caters to her needs…her lawn needs mowed, he goes; her light bulbs need changed (really), he goes; her car needs washed, he goes…. These are all real examples. He says I am just trying to keep him from his boys...so not true. I think it’s BS when my DH is at her house cutting her grass, and I am home cutting my own grass.

OMG ~~ i couldn't handle it...... plus aren't skids old enough to mow the lawn, change the light bulb, etc??

family dinner night at bm's ~~ that's crazy!

can you train him into seeing it for what it is, like every time he says no to bm, there's a blow job in it for him.... and every time he kisses her ass and says how high when she says jump, no dinner, no nookie, no nothing until he redeems himself?

thanks crayon..... i think blow jobs are awesome.... they work like magic.

I like the way you think.... I'll call it 'oral motivation'!!!

i like it!

'oral motivation'

Pour moi, BP issues, SK issues and CS and schedule issues. That's all folks!

My main issues have been:

in-laws
selfish BM who doesn't parent ... and the resulting...
SK chaos

My husband is my primary issue. I am the primary parent for his kids when they are in our home, even his exes refer to me for everything regarding the kids, my SD4's BM told me that if it werent for me she was confident he wouldnt not even have a relationship with his girls. It frustrates me and I feel like I spend most of my time trying to get him to be a dad. I love my SD's as I have no kids of my own....so its not that I dont want to do what I do...its just that I feel he should be more involved and not just the guy on the couch.

It goes in cycles.

All of the above:

*BP Issues - Crazy PASing BM, end of story

*SK Issues - SS is great, SD showing signs of PASing out

*Parenting Issues (i.e. Guilty/Disney Parenting, Lack of Parenting, Differences in Parenting Styles, Differences in treatment of BKs vs. SKs, PAS, withholding/preventing agreed/ordered visitation, etc.) - DH not parenting like I think he should or guilty parenting at best. BM's PASing the kids, NO visitation with SD at all - including her baby

*CS Issues - not as bad now as it used to be but it still gets to me. Mainly when DH would get mad at DS for anything and everything while his kids could do no wrong. I'd say at least my son is bringing money INTO the house instead of taking it away from us with BM making them resent us being together the whole time!

*Marital Issues (Insecurities with SO's past, Jealousy/comparing yourself with to BPs, Differences in Finance Managment, etc.) - see above answer, also DH is insecure with me leaving (or dying - I guess that is leaving, too, huh?), believes that any chance I get to find another guy, I am out of his life. I do get jealous over BM - not that I think she is better than I am, far from it. But I am jealous that when I was a single mom, I couldn't afford to buy a 5 bedroom new house (or ANY house for that matter) and a new car (or ANY car that wasn't a junker!). I guess I was jealous that my son's BD wasn't as responsible with CS as my DH was with support for HIS kids... If anything, though, BM was jealous of ME because DH married me and bought a house with ME - which he wouldn't do with her even when she tried to rope him in by having two kids!

What a tangled web...