It's 3:30am and I can't sleep. Too much in my mind! BM and crazy family have my head spinning in a million directions. All I can repeat in my head is "no good deed goes unpunished" afterall, me and fdh tried in august to head off this situation, but regardless of our intent we still ended up in the exact same situation we were attempting to avoid.
So I ask myself, why did this happen? Because BM made it happen or did we contribute? I don't have the answers, I don't expect any answers anytime soon, but I know this...the switching of weekend she requested for October and what we requested for November are null and void!!! Why? Because she obviously can't keep her word and I am tried of contributing to my own situation.
Therefore at the break of dawn I will be sending oh dear bm a text say this...

Zen: This is to inform you that you should consider null and void any previous text or discussion concerning any changes to the visitation parenting schedule for the month of October and November. We are not interested in any switching of weekends any longer. Therefore, fdh is still scheduled for every other weekend. Meaning this is his weekend, then yours, then his, then yours, and so on. No further discussion is necessary since this has been the norm.

This should be a nice little F U this morning!!!

The history of the switching was that we wanted to take a weekend away with fdh family. Then bm started switching October to meet her schedule with traveling boyfriend. However, after everything that has happened over this past week of dealing with her and her lack of commitment fdh and I decided, no more! She can't accommodate her children for her sisters daughters party and we are made to look like the bad people in this and both of us have to be insulted!!! Nope not dealing with it. We are just sticking to the schedule as is...EOWe!!! Period!!

Let me know what you guys think!!!really value your opinion!

UPDATE:
Thought everyone needed a good laugh this morning. I received this text yesterday from bm, but after the saga and lack of sleep I didn't feel much like doing much of anything. This is her reply (cut and pasted). My favorite is "new". Lmfao

bm: New you were going to do that! Not surprised! I cant leave the girls suitcases at aftercare! I will leave them in carport at my house!
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I have zero intentions of replying. Because if I did it would be "duh?! You thought after all the insults directed at us by your family, that dh and I would extend anything to you. Specifically after your "bait and switch", not honoring your promise to your daughters or your commitment to dh. Yeah, you have lost your mind!!!"

But I'm not going to respond...good to vent here though!!