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I am exhausted with all of this

Minnow's picture

Submitted by Minnow on Thu, 09/23/2010 - 7:22am

The last 8 years my husband and I have argued over and over and over about one main topic which is my feelings that his daughters disrespect me and his lack of support and/or stand to let it continue. My stepdaughters are now 29 and 25 married and one has children but even today this topic returns and the arguments continue.

The last week it all started again and I showed my husband this site and he posted. It wasn't a surprise to me at all what the responses were so I thought well maybe he would finally, finally understand how I feel. It just didn't work because all he did was wanted to confront one person on his blog that he completely disagreed with. I'm so tired of all of this I don't even want to go any further.

This morning I am a mess again. Do I just keep my mouth shut and live this way and hope and pray some day I will feel that my husband has placed our marriage as a priority. Do I accept for now that this is as good as our marriage gets? Should I go to more counseling with him or without him? Should I try yet again to talk to his daughters and tell them how I feel? Should I read some books? Should I sit and pray to God to help me just get through today? Is there anyone out there that can help me right now?

Thanks for listening.

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hrtbroke40's picture

Submitted by hrtbroke40 on Thu, 09/23/2010 - 7:41am

Good luck to you...My mom always told me ""Blood is thicker than water" so you know you will always fall under the kids somewhere. I have came to the conclusion men just don't view marriage like women do. It is not a priority just something they do and it should take care of itself which is bull. You have to work at marriage and at love. I was glad to read your blog cause I see if when grown there will be a problem. I guess I will just remain single the rest of my life but then I plan on that anyway.

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Submitted by sweethoney on Thu, 09/23/2010 - 10:13am

After children are grown your marriage should come first. If it hasn't for 8 years then he might need a push to realize that you are not always just going to take the backburner. Couples counseling can always be good. But I wouldnt just sit around and be unhappy for some one else

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Submitted by Minnow on Thu, 09/23/2010 - 5:05pm

Thank you all for responding. Someone on this site this morning wrote that we are all responsible for our own happiness and I have always known this is so true. I'm not going to spend one more minute dwelling on this......I'm going to go forward and create my happiness. I have a life to live and as they say, this isn't a dress rehearsal. So today I woke up upset, tonight I am excited with some changes I've decided to make....for me, just for me for MY happiness.

Again, thanks.