I was on this site to vent my feelings about my stepchildren and their BM when I realized my children's stepmom might be on here also! She hated my children. I don't think she is evolved enough to actually dwelve into her issues with my children, so it's probably a stretch to think she would actually care enough to work it out on here. But if she is, I want to say this to her.

Yes, I had a problem with you. You broke up my marriage. You used the fact that you babysit children for a living to make my Ex husband think that you wanted to take care of his. But you didn't even take care of your own son. You gave him to relatives when he was 3 years old so that you could run around with my husband. You never got him back after you married him. Yep, I had a problem with you, but I LOVE my children and so did my husband and we didn't play games with their emotions. We never bad-mouthed each other in front of the kids. Therefore, I never bad-mouthed you in front of the the kids. They had a good relationship with their father. They are friendly children and we taught them to be respectful. They may not have liked you. But I demanded they respect you. You were not nice to them.

Before my ex died he told me that you had taken out loans and credit cards in his name and defaulted on them. he told me that you were a huge mistake. he told me he regretted that you were even around the kids. You and he were separated and about to divorce.

But then he died, you locked the doors to the home you weren't even living in anymore. The home where my children had their own stuff and their own rooms and you cleaned out the house. You even took the water heater. You told my son there was a will, and told him your lawyer said to lock up the house. Then after your family cleaned everything out, you told him there wasn't a will and since there isn't any equity in the house there is no estate to settle. You cleaned out his checking accounts. You let the bank foreclose the house. You wrote bad checks on his account. You sold expensive items and kept the money, and you took my childrens memories of their father and locked them up in a storage shed that you won't let them look through. They never got to walk through the house. They have no personal belongings to remember him by. All that was in the house was a sad pile of dolls that my 12yo daughter kept there. That's all that was left for my children. And guess who popped up at the funeral. Your long lost son. The son you gave up. The son you listed in the obituary as one of his children, even though he never lived with you both and he has another daddy. That son now has access to all the personal items that if you were a caring woman you would let your step children have. Their father would be furious if he knew what you did to those children. So, yeah, there are some mean stepmoms out there. You are one of them.